39. Is Perfectionism A Trauma Response?

Dear Little Me

Dawn Chitty

Childhood Trauma, Emotional Abuse, Narcissistic Mother, Healing, Ptsd, Trauma, Personal Journals, Health & Fitness, Depression, Anxiety, Mental Health, Society & Culture, Women Podcast, Relationships, Self Esteem, Self Help, Self Improvement

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🗓️ 2 August 2021

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

What causes perfectionism?

As a young girl Lauren felt pressure to look pleasing to those around her. To look perfect. To fit in. And as she got more into her love of acting, the pressure only got worse. Constant analysis of looks, weight. Perhaps you should lose a few pounds? Your voice isn’t great. Picking away at the very core of her soul. This is a story of a beautiful passionate young girl who had a dream. To be successful. As an actor. But the unrelenting drive to be perfect took its toll. The anxiety, the panic to always be what everyone else wants you to be is, in the end, untenable. Life comes crashing down around your ears and as you try to take that one last chance at the dream, you realise that life is guiding you in a different direction. Lauren's story is compelling listening. There are so many twists and turns to this story as Lauren gets lost along the way. But every single word is truth. And a good reminder that sometimes trauma can show up in our pursuit of perfection.

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0:20.4	Definitely there was some pressure.
0:22.3	If I look back and in hindsight at a young age,
0:26.2	there was this pressure for me to look like a doll or me to be perfect or me to be pleasing.
0:33.7	And I don't have a daughter.
0:35.3	I have two boys, but if I did have a daughter, I would probably not do that.
0:40.4	I would probably make sure I would be very, very careful not to, especially nowadays with
0:45.7	social media and what's going on out there.
0:48.3	It's absolutely insane.
0:49.6	But I would definitely make sure to really walk lightly around the whole beauty thing
0:53.7	because it can be quite, it is, it is, it's not can be, it is very, it's damaging,
0:59.6	especially when you're growing up and you're learning about yourself as a young girl.
1:09.7	Welcome to how my parents raised me, I'm Dawn Chitty.
1:13.1	When we are born, we arrive here as pure and perfect souls.
1:18.2	And the direction our life takes from that moment is deeply connected to what
1:23.4	our parents bring to our lives and what our parents bring to our lives is deeply connected
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