#388 - How to Stop Walking on Eggshells in Your Relationship

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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🗓️ 12 February 2024

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

Do you feel like you're always walking on eggshells around your partner? When you feel like you have to be extremely careful about what you say, otherwise your partner will blow up, get defensive, or feel hurt, something has to change. So what's your path forward? That's what we're talking about on today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast.

You'll learn:

What causes us to walk on eggshells in a relationship
Why this dynamic is bad for you, your partner, and your connection
How to communicate in a way that minimizes defensiveness
When it's time to get help for your relationship.

I hope this episode helps you reflect on why you're feeling like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner, and some strategies for building a relationship where you can be open and authentic — because that is what you deserve.

xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S. — This is a pattern that's best tackled with help from a relationship expert. Schedule your free consulation with a Growing Self couples counselor.

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0:00.0	If you've been feeling lately like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner,
0:07.0	today's episode is for you. This is a common relational issue, one that often leads couples to
0:15.0	seek out counseling, and rightly so, because if it feels like you can't say a word, everything you say or do could
0:24.3	lead to defensiveness or negative reaction or walking away, you know, you're not alone in that,
0:30.9	but it's also very problematic. It's not a sustainable place to be in, in a relationship. It must be resolved if you want this
0:42.0	relationship to thrive and continue growing in a healthy way. So on today's episode, we're talking
0:48.9	about why that walking on eggshells feeling happens in the first place, but also you'll get some
0:56.4	actionable things that you can do starting today to begin to change this dynamic, because
1:04.0	we both know it they'll go.
1:14.1	Today's musical inspo comes from the artist Cold Spex with the song Wild Card, which is kind of how it feels, isn't it, when we're walking on eggshells
1:29.9	and feeling like we have to watch our step to try to avoid this big emotional reaction on
1:38.2	the other side. It is a wild card. So I thought it was appropriate for us today.
1:44.7	You can learn more about Cold Specks on their bandcamp page, coldspex.com.
1:51.3	So in every relationship, we all have moments where we feel like maybe we need to be more careful than others.
1:59.0	And, you know, sometimes that's appropriate.
2:00.7	But when it turns into a
2:03.2	relational dynamic that takes over and you feel that way all the time, that is really a warning sign
2:12.2	about the way this relationship is trending because it creates such a negative atmosphere. It feels like you just
2:23.1	don't have any room. You can't be authentic about what you think or how you feel you have to be
2:30.6	so careful about what you say. And one of the most predictable consequences of this
2:37.1	dynamic are feelings of resentment, hostility, and after a while just being over the whole thing.
2:46.3	And hey, welcome to the podcast. If this is your first time listening, I am your host. I'm Dr. Lisa Marie
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