387: Why Calming Yourself Helps Calm Your Child // Eli Harwood

3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms

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🗓️ 5 September 2024

⏱️ 15 minutes

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This bonus excerpt is one I pulled from Eli's full episode that dropped earlier this week. (If you haven't had a chance to listen, I highly recommend it. It's one of the most value-packed conversations I've had on 3 in 30!) Because it was so value-packed, we had to trim it to 30 minutes, and I didn't want you to miss out on this fascinating part of the conversation, so I decided to make it a bonus episode. These thoughts from Eli on co-regulation for parents blew my mind! I mean, I had heard of co-regulation before, but the scientific evidence behind it is fascinating! I had no idea there were nerve fibers that are activated when I caress my child, and these nerve fibers calm my child's heart down! It takes the old adage "If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" to a whole new level. 🤯 Eli's explanation of the science behind co-regulation helps me understand why it is so vital that moms proactively do soul-care. It literally helps us build a buffer so that we don't dysregulate when our kids are dysregulated. It's so powerful! (By the way, I just did a mini episode on soul-care! Click below to check it out!) Taking care of ourselves helps us avoid losing our tempers and doing and saying things we regret. If you want to explore managing your anger so it doesn't negatively impact your children's sense of connection to you, be sure to attend my live online masterclasses over these next two weeks on how to "reroute your mom rage." Click below to sign up! *** Announcements: Sign up for my FREE masterclass to learn all about rerouting your mom rage! Purchase Eli's Book here: Raising Securely Attached Kids by Eli Harwood Related Episodes: 380: Principle #5 // Sanctify Your Soul-Care [Back-to-School Series] 279: Navigating Parenting Triggers // Nat Vikitsreth 340: How to Be a Safe Place for your Sweetheart// Eli Harwood Episode sponsors: MollysSuds: Pick up Molly’s Suds on your next Target run or order through my exclusive URL to get 20% off all Molly Suds products. *** Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	You're listening to 3 and 30 takeaways for moms and before we get started with today's episode I have to tell you that I once threw an egg-a-waffle at my son when I was in a fit of rage
0:10.8	This was not one of my finest mothering moments, but it has definitely become a family legend.
0:17.2	And I will tell you all about that ridiculous true story if you attend my free online master class this week which is called
0:24.5	Reroute Your Mom Rage how to use your anger to better connect with your kids.
0:29.5	I have come a long way since the Waffle Incident and in this workshop I will teach you three strategies for taming your anger, whether you're a natural yeller or more of a silent simmerer.
0:43.0	I'll be there with you live on Zoom and I can't wait,
0:45.7	so go to 3 and 30 podcast.com slash free class
0:49.0	to reserve your spot.
0:51.3	Welcome to 3 and 30, a podcast to help you feel more like yourself within your motherhood.
0:59.0	Each 30 minute episode features three actionable takeaways to help you become a more
1:03.8	self-assured mom, someone who knows yourself, honors your needs, and loves your people.
1:08.8	Listen in to feel encouraged as we learn together how to overcome and find more magic in motherhood.
1:16.0	I'm your host Rachel Nielsen. I'm here with a little bonus episode for you this week.
1:29.0	In our main episode on Monday, therapist Eli Harwood talked about creating secure attachment with our
1:35.2	children by being mindful of our three bees, our bodies, our beliefs, and our behaviors.
1:42.0	If you miss that conversation, I highly suggest that you go back and
1:45.2	listen because it was one of the most value-packed conversations I think I've had on
1:51.0	3 and 30 and we even had to edit it down quite a bit to keep it close to our 30 minute
1:56.0	brand promise but one of the sections that we had to trim out of the main episode to keep it short enough
2:01.8	was super interesting and compelling.
2:03.8	So I thought I'd bring that excerpt to you here as a little Thursday bonus.
2:08.6	For context, this clip was taken from the portion of the interview where Eli's teaching us about the importance of
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