3793: You Don’t Have to Adjust Who You Are to Please Others by Charlotte Hosier with Tiny Buddha

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🗓️ 2 November 2025

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3793: Charlotte Hosier shares a powerful journey from chronic people-pleasing to authentic living, revealing how suppressing your needs for approval leads to burnout and self-alienation. By uncovering the root beliefs driving this behavior and replacing them with self-awareness and small acts of honesty, you can begin living a life that feels more true and empowering. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/you-dont-have-to-adjust-who-you-are-to-please-others/ Quotes to ponder: "Yes, you may feel guilty for being honest at first, but it will get easier." "You feel in control. You feel comfortable. But until you start to examine the root of your behavior, it’s likely that you’ll continue to constantly want to please others." "Adjust less to others. Listen more to yourself." Episode references: The Work by Byron Katie: https://thework.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:31.9	living daily you don't have to adjust who you are to please others by Charlotte Hosier with tinybuda.com,
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1:02.7	You don't have to adjust who you are to please others by Charlotte Hosier of tinybuda.com.
1:10.4	Quote, if you're busy pleasing everyone, you're not being true to yourself.
1:15.5	End quote.
1:16.5	That's by Jocelyn Murray.
1:18.4	Do you say yes to things only to keep people happy?
1:22.2	Do you fear saying and doing what you actually want?
1:25.4	I know how that feels.
1:27.1	From a young age, I was the polite,
1:29.1	good girl. I rarely rebelled. I wanted to keep everyone happy. I thought that if I was honest,
1:35.0	I would be rejected, that those closest to me wouldn't love me. I thought I would end up alone.
1:40.4	At friends' houses, asked what I would like to drink or eat, I would always respond with
1:45.1	whatever's easiest. I never wanted to be a burden. At 21, I met my boyfriend's parents. Dinner was
1:51.7	fresh sardines complete with tiny bones. I was vegetarian and hated fish. Yet, I said nothing and
1:58.6	ate away. I fought the urge to be sick. I followed each revolting
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