379: What Are You Apologizing For?
School of Self-Image
Tonya Leigh
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 6 March 2024
⏱️ 20 minutes
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Summary
Ditching Apologies: Cultivating Self-Love and Confidence
Over-apologizing can become such a habit we don't even realize we are repeating the behavior. School of Self-Image host Tonya Leigh discusses the tendency for women to over-apologize and the impact it can have on their self-esteem and confidence. She explores why women tend to over-apologize, including societal expectations and the desire to please others.
Tonya emphasizes the importance of recognizing when apologies are unnecessary and offers strategies for breaking the habit, such as replacing "I'm sorry" with "thank you" and focusing on solutions instead of apologies. She encourages women to take ownership of their space, needs, and voice without feeling the need to apologize constantly.
Tune in to discover how over-apologizing can impact your daily life and learn how to break free from this ingrained behavior.
Episode Details:
00:51 Over-apologizing in daily life
05:32 Apologizing for things beyond control
10:41 Recognizing over-apologizing habits
13:44 Swapping "sorry" for "thank you"
17:52 Refusing to apologize for being you
Quotes:
"I'm so sorry I'm crying. I'm like, why are you apologizing for feeling your human emotions? We should never apologize for having emotions."
"When you apologize for things that aren't your fault, you're basically saying, I'm sorry for having needs. I'm sorry for taking up space. I'm sorry for needing support."
"You have valuable thoughts and ideas to share. You are deserving of taking up space. You are worthy of support and love."
"I am all for taking responsibility when it's my responsibility. But I was taking on the world's responsibility when I was over-apologizing."
"The last suggestion I can offer you is to begin to ask questions with confidence instead of apologizing because sometimes, sorry just becomes a crutch to get someone's attention."
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Benjamin Disraeli said, never apologize for showing feeling. |
| 0:05.0 | When you do so, you apologize for the truth. |
| 0:09.0 | In this episode, I'm posing the question, |
| 0:11.0 | what are you apologizing for? So let's dive in. |
| 0:19.6 | Welcome to the school of self-, where personal development meets style. |
| 0:24.7 | Here's your hostess Master Life Coach Tanya Lee. |
| 0:29.7 | Hello, my gorgeous friends. |
| 0:31.5 | Welcome to another episode. Now I want you to imagine that I |
| 0:37.3 | start this episode out like this. Hey I'm really sorry to interrupt your day but I really want to share an important message with you. |
| 0:46.4 | Would you have confidence in the message? |
| 0:49.7 | And would I have confidence in my own message when I start out with an apology. |
| 0:56.0 | And yet so many people, especially women, tend to over-apolog apologize for themselves. |
| 1:05.0 | Now you may be thinking, this doesn't apply to me, |
| 1:08.0 | but chances are it does. |
| 1:10.0 | Because over apologizing can become so ingrained in our daily lives that we don't even realize that we're doing it. |
| 1:16.8 | Think about it. Have you ever apologized for asking for your meal to be fixed when it comes out wrong. |
| 1:24.2 | Let's say you order your steak medium rare and it comes out well done. |
| 1:28.8 | And the waiter comes over the table and you say, hey, I'm really sorry, but I asked for the steak to be medium rare and it's clearly not. |
| 1:36.9 | Or have you ever apologized for being sick? Hey I'm sorry but I have the flu and I won't be able to make our date. |
| 1:47.0 | As if you somehow willed the flu upon yourself or tell me if this one sounds familiar |
| 1:52.2 | because I feel like a lot of us do this one. |
| 1:54.7 | What about apologizing for saying no to something you just don't want to do? |
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