377. Why do we resist change?
The Psychology of your 20s
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4.8 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 22 January 2026
⏱️ 40 minutes
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Summary
When we move through our 20s, it can feel like everyone else is making big, brave moves - new cities, new jobs, new relationships - while we’re stuck in the same place, overthinking every possible outcome. Change sounds good in theory, but in practice? It’s terrifying. In today’s episode, we dig into why we resist change, and what it actually takes to move forward even when part of you wants to stay the same.
We explore:
• Why change feels so overwhelming in our 20s
• How loss aversion keeps us clinging to ‘fine but not right’ situations
• What we really lose by staying the same
• Why some of the best, most aligned decisions are also the scariest
• How to build a more compassionate, positive mindset around change
• Practical ways to take action with your fear, instead of waiting for it to disappear
If you’re stuck in the loop of wanting change, but being scared to action it, this episode is for you.
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| 0:00.0 | This is an I-Heart podcast. |
| 0:02.5 | Guaranteed Human. |
| 0:08.5 | Hello everybody. |
| 0:10.0 | I'm Jemma Spike and welcome back to the psychology of your 20s, the podcast where we talk |
| 0:15.4 | through the biggest changes, moments and transitions of our 20s and what they mean for our psychology. |
| 0:27.9 | Hello everybody. |
| 0:29.4 | Welcome back to the show. |
| 0:30.7 | Welcome back to the podcast. |
| 0:32.5 | It is so great to have you here back for another episode as we of course break down the |
| 0:37.0 | psychology of your 20s. |
| 0:39.4 | Today let's talk about change. Let's talk about transitional periods. Let's talk about growth, progress, |
| 0:47.3 | like the huge shifts that we experience in our 20s. These moments that are on like the precipice |
| 0:52.6 | of something new feel very exciting. |
| 0:55.2 | They feel very romantic. |
| 0:56.8 | They feel very thrilling. |
| 0:59.0 | But let's be honest, change is one of those things that I think sounds super fun in theory, |
| 1:05.1 | but is sometimes absolutely horrible and painful in practice. |
| 1:09.2 | In fact, at times, I think it really sucks and it has |
| 1:13.8 | us really wishing that we'd stayed the same. We all have ambitions for kind of like the ways |
| 1:19.9 | we like to change our lives or like to live our lives. We want a new job. We want to move to a new |
| 1:25.6 | city. We want better friendships, whatever it is that's |
| 1:29.1 | currently on your goal list, it's funny that often the second like a real opportunity to |
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