376-Proud, Serious & Lonely to Leading with Wonderful Connection. Steve's Transformation Story
Delight Your Marriage
Belah Rose
4.7 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 31 March 2023
⏱️ 66 minutes
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Summary
So... a serious ex-military gent (on his way to becoming a drill sergeant) decided it was time to fix his marriage.
Then as a business leader and a leader in the church, people would come to him for marriage advice. Their connection looked good on the outside, but sadly it was lonely.
When he started the program, he began to realize maybe he should stop giving marriage advice.
He shares in his story how hard, but necessary it was to become humble.
Which as, Andrew Murray says, is the chief sin -- all others flow from it.
Murray goes on to say, if you think you don't struggle with pride, sadly, you do more than those who are at least aware of it.
We all have to fight against pride.
Steve decided to take on that challenge. (Maybe his military background helped?)
And he decided to listen and deeply consider if his heart, perceptions, and approach have been wrong in his marriage.
He not only became humble, but he also became teachable and asked the Lord to change him from the inside. And that caused him to lead as God designed.
Well, God is faithful... and did that.
And when we seek first His Kingdom -- it's possible He changes things in our world as well (not guaranteed... but what IS guaranteed is we will see eternal riches though!)
Steve ended up being so grateful for what God did through the Masculinity Reclaimed program.
Before, he admitted that he would feel jealous of his own children because his wife gave them so much attention, affection, and pursuit and he was left with less than crumbs.
Now, things have shifted SO much that she pursues him!
And he LOVES being around his kids now. He said he feels he is the father they need.
He said this program has ultimately changed the trajectory of all 5 of their lives because it has changed their father and the home they grow up in.
It's a story in which you'll be inspired and challenged and encouraged. If God can do it for Steve, He really can do it for you.
(And Steve's wife didn't do the work... in fact, she didn't even know he took the program! Seriously, it can happen for you too. Have hope. God does miracles still!)
Blessings,
Belah
PS - The only way to get into this program is through a selection process called a Clarity Call. It is free, however, it takes a lot from our team and is a true gift to the one who signs up.
If you are ready like Steve was, make the call: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
We work with wives in a separate program and God does amazing things there too!
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A different, recent graduate wrote:
BEFORE the DYM program:
I didn't enjoy time with her, intimacy was not passionate, physical touch was lacking, we didn't have a connection anymore besides being parents to the same kids.
Every day was a struggle, and I often avoided my wife because I wanted to protect myself from attacks
AFTER the DYM program:
I have rediscovered joy! I am the leader of the home, in terms of mood, spiritual life, finances, relationships, everything. And by leading my house, my wife will become the partner I need and the woman she was created to be.
I've become the man my wife trusts, someone she can talk to openly and at length. We enjoy each other's company again & look forward to spending time together. Physical intimacy is no longer a chore, but a way to connect in addition to frequent non-sexual touch.
This program is so incredible, it has changed the trajectory of my household forever. "
(Wife didn't know he did the program).
Let's see if we can help YOU just like this! Sign up now, it's worth it: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | the listening to different people's interviews that you've had, there was a time where I remember |
| 0:05.5 | thinking, if I did that course, and it was in my mind and I was like, I wonder if I'd ever do that. |
| 0:09.6 | And I'm like, nah. And here I am. Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast. You're joining me, |
| 0:17.5 | Bella Rose, as I dive deep into the beauty, power, and truths about intimacy. |
| 0:22.7 | Learn not only the practicals, but the heart behind what making love is all about. Delight |
| 0:28.3 | your marriage. Hi there. I'm Bella and I'm going to be super brief because I just can't wait |
| 0:36.2 | to get into Steve's story. You are, you're just going to be super brief because I just can't wait to get into Steve's story. |
| 0:37.9 | You are, you're just going to be so inspired and encouraged. |
| 0:43.4 | Steve has got incredible insights into his own journey and what God did through the Delight Your Marriage program. |
| 0:50.8 | But I just can't wait for you to hear his processing and his what what God did. |
| 0:57.1 | I mean, just there's so much depth. You know, one of the things that I hear a lot is that men |
| 1:04.4 | being actually jealous of the attention their wives give to their own kids. And it's really painful because this is a man who follows Jesus |
| 1:14.0 | and he wants to be the good father. |
| 1:16.0 | But my goodness, how do you watch your wife have so much time |
| 1:21.4 | and energy and motivation to pursue all the best parenting, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, but she gives me crumbs. |
| 1:30.2 | I'm at the very bottom of her list. |
| 1:32.3 | And I hear that often from husbands. |
| 1:35.5 | And that was Steve's journey. |
| 1:37.4 | And I'm really grateful that he speaks to that specifically because it completely transformed |
| 1:43.3 | and, spoiler alert, his wife didn't even know |
| 1:46.5 | he did the work. So it's incredible, please listen with an open heart so that God can change |
| 1:52.6 | you through this conversation. So let's dive in. And before we do, if you are interested |
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