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The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

371: 5 Ways To Navigate a Relationship That Feels Stuck

The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

Michelle Chalfant

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.91.6K Ratings

🗓️ 15 June 2023

⏱️ 20 minutes

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Summary

There's someone in your life you love, but the relationship just isn't working. 

 

Despite your best efforts to communicate and try to work things out, nothing is changing. This person seems totally uninterested in listening to you or working on the relationship.

 

You've hit a wall, and the relationship feels stuck.

 

This can be so maddening, frustrating, disappointing and painful! You wouldn't be trying to make it work if you didn't care for this person, but you can't make them change…and you're hurting in the meantime. 

 

I hear from listeners all the time who find themselves in this situation, with a romantic partner, a friend, a family member or a colleague. They want to know: How do you approach this with an Adult Chair perspective…not just for the relationship, but for yourself?

 

In this episode, I'm giving you five steps to take when you feel stuck or at an impasse with someone in your life. These are all things YOU have the power to do, no matter the other person's response, and they will help you find new clarity, perspective and ideas for navigating this situation. 

 

Listen to discover:

  • A higher perspective on why relationships come and go

  • Five steps to working through a relationship dead end or stalemate

  • The power of acceptance and letting go

  • How to control what you can and release what you can't

  • How to take care of yourself no matter what happens in the relationship 

Relationships can be beautiful, hard and everything in between. 

 

It's ok – and even expected – that certain people will come and go throughout our lives. Perhaps you've learned what you're meant to learn and it's time to let go, or perhaps there's something for your soul to learn by working through this difficult process together.

 

Whether you want to keep fighting for a relationship or you know it's time to end it, the steps in this episode will help you stay in your Adult Chair, control what you can, let go of what you can't and take care of YOU, so you can live with peace and hope no matter what happens with the relationship.

 

"Have you considered that the reason that you're with this person…is because you needed to learn, grow, transform or find something about yourself?" - Michelle Chalfant

 

"Acceptance and liking are two very different things." - Michelle Chalfant

 

"When you're able to accept somebody for who they are, there's almost like a release that happens. There's a detachment that happens." - Michelle Chalfant

 

"People are not going to change until they're ready and willing to change." - Michelle Chalfant

 

"Just because the relationship needs to be shifted, it doesn't mean it has to end." - Michelle Chalfant

 

"We cannot go around our pain. We go through our pain, and we are stronger on the other side." - Michelle Chalfant 

 

"Emotions are meant to be experienced, felt and processed, or metabolized, through the body and the energy field. And if we don't build a story around what we're feeling…those emotions move through us." - Michelle Chalfant

 

"Boundaries are not confrontational." - Michelle Chalfant

 

"To let go is to truly detach from [the] outcome, and we let go of our expectations as well." - Michelle Chalfant

 

"It's beautiful when we are able to look at our lives and ask, 'What do I need?'" - Michelle Chalfant

 

"Relationships can be beautiful, but they can also be really hard…and they can also be somewhere in the middle." - Michelle Chalfant

 

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hi, I'm Michelle Shelfand, psychotherapist, holistic life coach, and human just like you,

0:09.4

learning to navigate life challenges.

0:11.8

With over 25 years experience, I teach people how to get healthy using the adult chair model.

0:17.6

The adult chair model is where simple psychology meets grounded spirituality, and it teaches

0:23.0

us how to become healthy adults.

0:26.2

From anxiety and depression to codependency and relationship issues, you can use the adult

0:30.7

chair for just about anything.

0:33.8

Each week, I share practical tips, tools and advice from myself and a wide range of experts

0:40.0

on how to get unstuck, how to live authentically, and how to truly love yourself, all while

0:45.8

sitting in your adult chair.

0:48.8

Welcome to the adult chair podcast.

0:56.1

I am Michelle Shelfand, very happy to be here with you today, and this third week of June,

1:03.1

I'm actually this whole week, I'm in Mexico, Puerto Vallarta, to be exact, and I am doing

1:16.8

a retreat with, how do I say this, very deep personal work, sort of retreat.

1:23.6

I love this kind of stuff.

1:24.6

I know people think I'm crazy, but I love it.

1:26.6

I love to work on anything that can help me to live more and more from the place of the

1:33.4

true self.

1:34.4

It is an immersion at this retreat center, small retreat center, and there is no Wi-Fi.

1:41.4

They take everything away that would create any sort of distraction, so I'm actually,

1:46.5

I love this kind of stuff, I know people like I'm nuts, but I do, so I'm really excited.

1:51.2

So I look forward to sharing about that the next time you and I chat.

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