Have you found yourself thinking, I really like these people in my life, but I don't want to be around them.

I don't know about you.

But there are certain times that I have found in every relationship that I hit a relational wall.

And ultimately, I think it's probably one of the most painful walls because if it's a physical

wall or a mental or spiritual, it has everything to us and our capacity to fix it.

But a relational wall is really challenging because you're only half powerful.

Well, at least that's how it feels.

We're going to get into the truth about that, but that's kind of how it feels.

I can't think of an area in my life that when I hit a wall and it's relational, how much I want to run. I don't want to deal with it. I don't like it. I do not like conflict and how draining it is. But ultimately, it's real. And we have to have tools around it. These are the things that I do, hopefully it will help you.

If you're new here, I'm Havlet-Kinnington and I'm here to help you through my own learning,

learn how to do some of this hard stuff. And one of those is facing a wall relationally.

So what does it sound like to be in a relational conflict? A wall. You might go, I already know. but for those of us that are kind of in denial, this is some of the checkpoints. We're avoiding hard conversations,

or we're just avoiding conversations altogether. We don't pick up the phone, we don't text,

it's very short, it's quick, I don't want to get together with them, I just, it doesn't

feel quite right. We often

feels like everything that we converse about or interact about, it turns to like a weird

conflict shut down. It feels awkward and it feels exhausting. Like that's what it feels like when

you hit that wall. It's just like, I don't know how to win here and I don't know what's going on here. And a lot of times when

we're in that relational conflict, we just feel misunderstood. We feel misaligned. And we're just,

honestly, we get tired of trying. We just get tired of trying. And for those of us that under function

or over function, if we're the overfunctioning one, we just get tired of trying. And for those of us that under function or over function,

if we're the overfunctioning one, we just get tired of having to mend every bridge, right? I got to mend it. I got to get in there. And for the rest of us, I think we just get stuck of like, I'm tired of you wanting to be in relationship. It exhausts me. Like, let's just leave it as is. But the truth is,

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