God gives us opportunities to change all the time.

Change the way we think, the way we are, the way we understand the world. 

 

And it saddens me when so many of us choose to assume this is as good as it gets and that we're not going to be able to do anything to make it better.

Nothing in the world has ever improved with that kind of thinking.

Ever.

 

To me, that's a very negative mindset called "wallowing."

 

I think it's childish, in fact. (I say that with conviction because I've been there far too often myself!)

I think God wants us to take our power back, stand on our own feet, and decide to improve what we are discontent about.

 

Yes, there are sad and bad things going on in the world.

But as followers of Jesus, we DO something about it.

We link arms with a mission or organization doing the work that needs to be done, like the Good Samaritan picking up the beaten man and paying for him to get better at the inn. He didn't start his own inn, he paid someone else to do the work that needed to be done. He partnered with someone to help this man get better.

We have the opportunity to change things for the better, all the time.

 

So, in your marriage, you need to do one or the other:

1 - Use discontentment to motivate you to change your marriage

Delight Your Marriage can help with this! Look at us like the "inn". You don't have to create something from scratch; we know how to fix it, by God's grace. Join a program and use your discontentment to change the whole thing! Delightyourmarriage.com/cc)

 

OR

 

2 - Choose to no longer be discontent, and instead, be grateful for what you have and live in God's purposes in other areas of your life.

You may be quite surprised that things get better as you choose a life of contentment and purpose in God's will. 

 

Ultimately, take responsibility for your heart and what you choose to meditate on.

 

Don't be a "Discontent Debbie" or a "Wallowing Walter!"

It's not what God has for you.

And I think it has eternal consequences...

 

Be a wise gardener of your mind and heart, so that you can have a life and joy that brings honor to Jesus. 

 

Blessings,

Belah

 

PS - Would you like to improve your marriage? 

Are you willing to let the Lord grow in you more of His love, grace, and power in your most important human relationship? 

Would you like our help? 

If so, schedule a free Clarity call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc

 

To fan the flame of hope, a quote from one of our program graduates:

"DYM [Delight Your Marriage] has been a great blessing to our marriage!  

After several years of feeling "stuck" in patterns in our marriage that left both of us feeling alone, hurt, unheard, and without much hope of any real and lasting change, I have found the material, ministry culture, and most importantly, the faith at work through the team of DYM to be exactly what I needed to take real steps of faith in practical ways that mattered to my wife and our marriage."