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368 | I'll Decide What I'm Supposed To Do with Erika Hopkins

ADHD reWired

Eric Tivers, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education

4.8937 Ratings

🗓️ 23 March 2021

⏱️ 63 minutes

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Summary

Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Erika Hopkins discuss her background, why she went to college to find a husband, her history of poor health, being tired and depressed and diagnosed with hypoglycemia, plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired. Erika is a professional educator and aspiring author who lives with her husband and three boys in Idaho. She holds a Master of Education degree in secondary science, a Bachelor of Nutrition Science, and a Chemistry minor. Debilitated by chronic fatigue attributed to depression, Erika relinquished her idea that mothers should remain home. She took a job at the local high school, where the process of science and unlikely friendship challenged Erika's views of herself and the world. Ultimately, she discovered she has been living with undiagnosed ADHD. Listen, as Erika shares her background, her goal to be a wife and mother, becoming a high school science teacher, and having three sons under three. Erika speaks about the mentor she was assigned as a new teacher, the moment that took her breath away, and going to doctor after doctor trying to find out what was wrong with her. Erika discusses resigning from her teaching position and getting the ADHD diagnosis. Erika believes that people with ADHD don't have the executive function to make things happen, and she talks about some tools she has learned that have been helpful for her. Erika is excited about the future and feels free and adventurous, and all it took was talking to someone who put two and two together. You'll Learn: [03:39] Welcome to the show, Erika! [04:18] What experience led you to the transformation of you questioning everything you know? [07:04] Erika shares that her parents helped her come up with an appropriate degree if something happened to her husband and she needed to work. [09:38] Her goal was to become a wife and mother. [12:21] Erika speaks about her body having trouble managing levels. So the episodes of fatigue continued. [14:00] Erika went back to school and became a high school science teacher. [17:34] Having three sons under three and all in diapers is so tiring and noisy. [22:58] "The pressure on women to be organized, self-controlled, the one that is keeping everyone else organized is a societal expectation that is deeply ingrained." ["5:49] Erika speaks about researching how to write a book. [28:52] Because she wasn't taking care of herself, being home with her children wasn't sustainable. [30:53] Erika shares about the mentor she was assigned to as a new teacher. [33:05] She describes the moment that took her breath away. [36:15] Erika went to dozens of doctors, trying to figure out why she is so tired all the time. [39:43] The doctor told her she was normal, her blood work came back normal. [46:40] Erika speaks about resigning from her teaching position. [50:05] People with ADHD don't have the executive function to make things happen. [53:16] Erika talks about some things that have been helpful for her. [55:47] Erika cautions people not to believe everything someone tells them. [57:05] Erika feels free and more adventurous, and she is excited about the future. [58:02] Thank you for being on the show! [58:50:] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at www.ADHDreWired.com

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Here I was in the life I had anticipated for myself, but instead of being this happy, satisfied,

0:10.1

contented person, I was tired all the time now.

0:17.1

Not just episodes of fatigue, but now it's like constant exhaustion.

0:26.0

I was overwhelmed by the responsibilities of motherhood. It just felt like someone always needed me for something like and anyone who's had kids knows that and it can be draining and I love my kids but it was just so noisy and so like I'd start I would go through these cycles of being like really

0:47.2

motivated and I'm gonna okay I'm gonna get everything together I'm gonna organize

0:52.2

their little dressers with their baby clothes and like I'm going to

0:57.2

clean up the house and I'm going to have dinner ready when my husband gets home right

1:01.8

and I'd start doing one thing and that or ready when my husband gets home, right?

1:02.5

And I'd start doing one thing, and then end up doing something else,

1:06.9

and then a baby's crying, and I gotta go help the baby.

1:10.2

And then the brother is screaming, he needs help with his shoes and I go do that and I get like all day long

1:17.3

just not feeling like I'm accomplishing anything and so I just never really had the time or the

1:27.4

mindfulness to realize I needed it to take care of myself. Those are skills that I'm learning now and I've since learned that

1:36.2

women with ADHD are often diagnosed with depression before they learn that they have ADHD.

1:43.0

ADHD rewired episode 368.

1:49.0

This is the podcast for those of us with really good intentions and a slightly wandering

1:54.4

attention. I'm America Tivirs. I'm a licensed clinical social worker by

1:57.7

training and a coach by design. I'm your host and I have ADHD. ADHD rewired is more than just a podcast.

2:05.2

We are a community.

2:06.6

We are wired for connection and you are not alone.

2:10.0

Go to ADHD rewired.com to learn how you can join us in our free secret Facebook group.

2:15.3

Get additional resources for every episode including links to any resources we mentioned on today's show.

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