367: The Key to Emotional Maturity Pt. 1
The Connected Life
Justin Stumvoll
4.9 • 2.6K Ratings
🗓️ 12 January 2026
⏱️ 59 minutes
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Summary
Most of us were never taught how to be with uncomfortable emotions—only how to avoid, suppress, or get overwhelmed by them. The unfortunate result is disconnection in relationships and more suffering. But what if the real secret to healing and creating secure relationships isn't about fixing the pain, but learning how to be with it?
In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by longtime friend and consultant Rachel to unpack the rarely talked about skill of emotional distress tolerance—what it is, why we need it, and how it becomes the key to emotional maturity. They get personal, sharing how PTSD, eating disorders, conflict avoidance, and financial stress exposed the places where they felt fragile—and how they built emotional strength, one small challenge at a time.
If you've ever found yourself avoiding painful or difficult circumstances and want the skills necessary to get healthy and become a badass at facing life, this convo is a game-changer!
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| 0:00.0 | Life isn't perfect, and neither are we. |
| 0:05.8 | Nope. |
| 0:06.9 | But we know how to face our fears and have some fun. |
| 0:10.2 | And talk about all the messiest things of lives. |
| 0:13.1 | Like the messiest things. |
| 0:15.2 | Get connected to yourself. |
| 0:17.2 | Get connected to others. |
| 0:18.7 | And get connected to the life right in front of you. |
| 0:21.7 | This is the connected life with Justin and Abby. |
| 0:24.8 | That's me. |
| 0:25.6 | That's you. |
| 0:26.6 | And you. |
| 0:27.6 | All right. |
| 0:28.2 | I've got a question. |
| 0:29.7 | If your future self were to show up right now and tell you something about your future, |
| 0:35.4 | what would it tell you? |
| 0:36.5 | Maybe if it gave you a warning. |
| 0:37.8 | A lot of numbers. Absolutely. I already know. I already know. The future self is trying to get back |
| 0:43.9 | to me now to tell me the lot of numbers. What is what? It's very strategic. Yeah. It's like here's |
| 0:52.0 | a lot of numbers. I was imagine like in Back to the Future too where Biff comes back and gives himself the almanac. I'm like, I would have done that. An almanac. Yeah. I would have gone on a betting spree. Oh. A future almanac of all the sports. And then I would have taken over the world. I would, you could do betting on sports, I guess. |
| 1:12.9 | I would love stock information. |
| 1:15.2 | Oh, that's good. |
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