366 SelfWork: The Risk of Self-Transparency: What Are You Afraid People Will See?
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 3 November 2023
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
Today we’re focusing on your choice to be transparent and how it can be important in your mental health. Self-transparency. Think of it like this – if you put a lot of energy into covering up – into not allowing anyone to see your own struggles. There can be repercussions from that. You’re living in fear of being known – of being seen. What are you so afraid of people seeing? And what would have to happen for you to risk transparency?
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work as a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work |
| 0:29.6 | Welcome or welcome back to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:32.9 | I'm a clinical psychologist out of Fable, Arkansas. |
| 0:35.9 | And I started self-work eight years ago |
| 0:37.9 | in order to extend the walls of my practice |
| 0:40.1 | to those of you who might already be very interested |
| 0:42.2 | in psychological or emotional issues. To those of you who might already be very interested in psychological or emotional issues, |
| 0:44.2 | to those of you who might be looking for some answers, either in your relationship or personally |
| 0:49.7 | or individually, but also to a third group of you who are pretty skeptical about this whole |
| 0:55.6 | mental health treatment thing. And self-work will hopefully give you a very safe place to |
| 1:00.4 | listen privately, and maybe, just maybe, it'll be helpful for you I hope so. |
| 1:05.7 | Today we're talking about transparency now what does that mean? The definition is actually |
| 1:11.1 | the quality of allowing light to pass through so that |
| 1:14.3 | objects behind can be distinctly seen. So being transparent, meaning allowing what's |
| 1:19.7 | inside to show is a choice. We get told all the time by people who want our trust |
| 1:25.3 | that they're being transparent, right? But that's not often the case. And if you |
| 1:30.4 | believe that someone isn't keeping secrets from you and then they are, then you may set yourself up for hurt. |
| 1:36.5 | I've said many times that trust is earned. So this is certainly not an episode about blindly believing in the transparency of those around you. |
| 1:45.8 | Not at all. |
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