359. How to TRULY detach
The Psychology of your 20s
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4.8 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 29 November 2025
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
We can be so fixed on a job, a person, an outcome that we fuse our identity to it – and, crucially, forget that we’re okay without it. In today’s bonus episode, we unpack detachment: why we cling so tightly to people and outcomes, what over-attachment does to our mind and mood, and how to loosen the grip in a way that feels calm, kind, and clear.
We explore:
• Why we become attached to certain people or outcomes
• The impact of becoming overly attached on our behaviours, thoughts and emotions
• The Buddhist concept of ‘non-attachment’
• How detaching from the outcome can keep us grounded
• The value of the Stoic mindset
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| 0:00.0 | This is an I-Heart podcast. |
| 0:02.5 | Guaranteed Human. |
| 0:08.5 | Hello everybody. |
| 0:10.0 | I'm Jemma Spike and welcome back to the psychology of your 20s, the podcast where we talk |
| 0:15.4 | through the biggest changes, moments and transitions of our 20s and what they mean for our psychology. |
| 0:28.2 | Hello everybody. Welcome back to the show. Welcome back to the podcast. New listeners, |
| 0:34.1 | old listeners, wherever you are in the world. It is so great to have you here back |
| 0:38.3 | for another episode as we of course break down the psychology of our 20s. So today we've got |
| 0:45.0 | another one of our little bonus episodes. These are like shorter, more bite-sized doses of |
| 0:52.3 | our usual content, something to like accompany your lunch break or your |
| 0:56.4 | little morning walk. In these shorter chats, we just mainly aim to tackle certain terms, |
| 1:02.7 | theories, concepts that you may hear in the self-help or psychology space in a more focused, |
| 1:09.9 | compact kind of way. |
| 1:12.0 | And in today's episode, we are going to be looking at this concept of detachment, |
| 1:18.7 | specifically how we can truly detach from an outcome, from a person who is controlling our |
| 1:25.7 | emotions, from a relationship, a situation, a job application, |
| 1:30.8 | really anything. |
| 1:32.0 | Our attachment to these things is deeply emotional. |
| 1:35.3 | It shows we care a lot, but sometimes our emotional investment can actually cause us to |
| 1:40.1 | suffer more in imagination than in reality and get too caught up in the what-ifs than the |
| 1:46.4 | what is actually happening. Detachment is the psychological and emotional kind of antidote to this |
| 1:54.1 | that asks us to perhaps be more stoic, to understand that what we think about something won't always change what will |
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