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ADHD reWired

354 | How To Ask For What You Need with Jessica McLaren

ADHD reWired

Eric Tivers, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education

4.8937 Ratings

🗓️ 15 December 2020

⏱️ 61 minutes

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Summary

"The hardest word to hear is practice." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers and his guest Jessica McLaren discuss being diagnosed with ADHD along with learning disabilities, the embarrassment she experienced, and the man in the wheelchair that changed her mindset about learning disabilities, plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired. Jessica is a twenty-seven-year-old with learning disabilities, ADHD and has earned her Master's degree from Columbia University in social work. She is an active advocate for individuals with ADHD and learning disabilities. Jessica actively takes her own experiences as an individual with learning disabilities and ADHD to others; she wants others with the same issues to learn from her experiences to understand themselves better and be better advocates. Listen as Jessica discusses how her diagnosis turned her world upside down and how she self-advocated in college to make getting her degree more attainable. Jessica shares some stories on how self-advocacy worked and some stories about how it backfired. Jessica talks about the questions she asks during interviews to determine whether working there is a good fit for her, she shares how she gets her paperwork done and the reward system she created for herself. Jessica also discusses what people in the workforce need to keep in mind when self-advocating and remembering that part of self-advocacy is self-awareness. You'll learn: [02:34] Welcome to the show, Jessica! [03:04] Jessica shares what caused her to be diagnosed and turn her world upside down. [04:37] Jessica speaks about having trouble accepting the diagnosis and why she was embarrassed. [06:14] Jessica discusses who she calls the man in the wheelchair and how he changed her mindset. [09:05] How was college for you? [10:38] Eric and Jessica talk about reading with their ears. [12:45] Jessica shares what self-advocacy looked like for her in college. [20:02] Jessica shares some stories on how self-advocacy helped her help others. [22:58] Have you had any experiences where you tried self-advocacy that backfired on you? [26:20] Jessica has noticed that people who are overachievers are usually trying to hide something. [28:00] Jessica speaks about what she has done to find a boss that really works for her. [30:44] Jessica shares some questions she asks in interviews to determine if the job is a good fit for her. [33:38] Jessica discusses how she gets her paperwork done and the reward system she has come up with for herself. [36:53] Jessica talks about educating people on taking notes, and how they should be done, how they work best for you. [41:45] Jessica shares how long she has been a co-leader for ADDA. [42:04] What was it like speaking at the LDA National Conference? [45:04] Jessica speaks about what self-advocacy isn't. [47:52] What do people in the workforce need to keep in mind when self-advocating? [51:23] Part of self-advocacy really begins with self-awareness. [53:17] What are you practicing right now for yourself? [54:15] Jessica shares something she is really proud that she has done lately. [55:48] Thank you so much for being on the show! [56:32] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com Connect with Jessica McLaren Email Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

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Oftentimes I like to tell my clients is also the hardest word to hear is practice and over time

0:06.6

you'll develop those skills and it sucks to hear that but it's like take out that piece of paper

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right now that pencil and think about kind of what triggers you think about what helps

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helps you in a work environment or just what helps you understand in general and what would be ideal for someone to understand and

0:25.3

have a piece of paper and when you're looking for jobs applying for jobs and it works

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to see if any of those can be a checkmark crossed off and you can kind of have your little chit cheat there for you.

0:36.7

But the word that everyone hates, but it's true is it comes over time with practice.

0:41.1

A ADHD rewired, episode,

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354.

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This is the podcast for those of us with really good intentions and a slightly wandering

0:52.2

attention.

0:53.0

I'm a licensed clinical social worker by training and a coach by design.

0:57.8

I'm your host and I have ADHD.

1:00.0

ADHD rewired is more than just a podcast. We are a community. We are wired for connection and you are not alone.

1:07.8

Go to ADHD rewired.com to learn how you can join us in our free secret Facebook group.

1:13.3

Get additional resources for every episode, including links to any resources we

1:17.1

mentioned on today's show.

1:18.8

You can support us on Patreon, sign up for our email newsletter,

1:21.6

you can request podcast postcards to distribute to your clients and support groups and you can learn all about our intensive online video-based coaching and accountability groups. You can do all of this at our website

1:33.5

ADHD rewired.com. We know that starting is the hardest part so let's get

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started. Welcome back to another episode of ADHD rewired.

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Today's guest is Jessica McLaren.

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