353 | Mel Robbins: “People Can Be Disappointed in You and They Still Love You.”

The Quote of the Day Show | Daily Motivational Talks

Sean Croxton

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Business, Self-improvement, Entrepreneurship, Education

4.8 • 3.1K Ratings

🗓️ 13 March 2018

⏱️ 8 minutes

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Summary

There are seven basic fears. According to the great success writer, Napoleon Hill, these fears include poverty, criticism, ill health, loss of love, old age, loss of liberty, and of course death. In my experience, the two fears that keep us stuck, paralyzed from taking action on our goals and dreams, are the fears of criticism and the loss of love. Wired for survival, we’re terrified of being rejected by the tribe. We suppress the desire for something different in order to maintain someone else’s approval. We make criticism and disappointment mean that someone will love us less. But as Mel Robbins says on today’s episode of The Quote of The Day Show, people can be disappointed in you and still love you. You need to do what's right for you. It's your life.

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0:00.0	People can be disappointed in you and they still love you.
0:04.0	And that is the quote of the day.
0:31.0	Welcome back to the quote of the day show.
0:34.0	I'm your host, Sean Crox and the Sean Crox and .com.
0:37.0	We've got Mel Robbins back on the show today.
0:39.0	And today, Mel is talking about the two things that keep people out of action.
0:45.0	Number one is perfectionism.
0:47.0	We got to make sure that everything is perfect before we actually put it out and take action.
0:52.0	Number two is disappointing people.
0:55.0	And she talks about in this clip how one has a lot to do with the other.
1:00.0	So many of us have this perfectionism gene.
1:04.0	And the reason why we're perfectionists is we're trying to insulate ourselves from criticism.
1:09.0	That if you get it perfect, no one will give you feedback.
1:12.0	If you get it right, nobody's going to criticize you.
1:15.0	If you do it perfect, then no one will be able to attack you.
1:20.0	And the problem with that, and that's just another side of the same coin, which is the fear of disappointing people.
1:27.0	You're managing not disappointing people, not by lying, and not by being codependent,
1:33.0	but by actually trying to be a perfectionist so that nobody criticizes you.
1:37.0	So let me tell you a story about the fear of disappointing people in my own life.
1:41.0	Because this is the biggest trigger in my life.
1:43.0	I mean, it goes back to being in fourth grade, right?
1:46.0	It's there.
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