350. When should you move in with someone?
The Psychology of your 20s
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🗓️ 4 November 2025
⏱️ 44 minutes
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Summary
It sounds simple. Split the rent, share space, maybe finally stop packing an overnight bag. But living together is one of the biggest relationship transitions of our twenties, and it brings with it some very real psychological, emotional, and even social shifts.
In this episode, we unpack the questions around living with your partner in your 20s - what it means, what it changes, and what it reveals.
We explore:
• The pros and cons of moving in together
• Why living together can feel like forming a ‘chosen family’
• The pressure of societal and family expectations to hit the next milestone
• The hidden dynamics of cohabitation
• Why fairness, communication, and space matter more than perfection
• The five questions to ask yourself before you take the leap
Whether you’re moving in with your partner, thinking about it, or reflecting on a past experience, this episode is for you.
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| 0:00.0 | This is an I-Heart podcast. |
| 0:08.4 | Hello everybody and welcome back to the psychology of your 20s, the podcast where we talk |
| 0:15.7 | through some of the big life changes and transitions of our 20s and what they mean for our psychology. |
| 0:26.5 | Hello everybody. Welcome back to the show. Welcome back to the podcast. New listeners, |
| 0:32.5 | old listeners, wherever you are in the world. It is so great to have you here back for another |
| 0:37.3 | episode as we |
| 0:38.2 | of course break down the psychology of our 20s. This is a topic that has been a long time coming, |
| 0:45.9 | but I've been kind of like holding off on doing it until I had some actual lived experience |
| 0:52.2 | on the matter. And now that I can definitely say that I do, I want to talk about what it's like |
| 0:57.9 | living with your partner in your 20s and whether or not you should do it. |
| 1:03.1 | So I have been with my partner, Tom, now, for three years. |
| 1:07.2 | I feel like you guys have been here for the entire life cycle of our relationship |
| 1:10.9 | from like when I was on my dating detox to when I met him afterwards. And what you may or may not |
| 1:17.6 | know is that we did kind of like, we had like a medium distance relationship for some time where |
| 1:24.3 | I live in Sydney. He lives in Wollongong. It's kind of like an hour and a half, |
| 1:27.7 | two hour drive, not really long distance, not particularly like easy to pop over and see each other. |
| 1:35.0 | And about a year in, he basically decided like, okay, I'm going to move to Sydney so that we can |
| 1:40.6 | be close. We had this huge discussion of do we move in with each other? |
| 1:44.8 | Do we move in with each other after really only being together for like a year? |
| 1:48.5 | And we decided not to. |
| 1:51.5 | And I will say this. |
| 1:53.2 | That was one of the best decisions that we made for our relationship. |
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