346. How to avoid settling in your 20s
The Psychology of your 20s
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4.8 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 24 October 2025
⏱️ 37 minutes
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Summary
Everyone is secretly searching for the perfect relationship, but what if your relationship is just 'good enough'? What if you feel secure, or fine about the person you're with but secretly want more? In today's episode we break down what it means to settle in your 20s, including:
- The pressure to be 'coupled up' during your 20s
- How milestone anxiety creates unfulfilled relationships
- What settling looks and feels like
- How to tell if it's just relationships anxiety
- 3 questions to ask yourself if you're thinking about leaving
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| 0:38.4 | Hello everybody and welcome back to the psychology of your 20s, the podcast where we talk |
| 0:45.7 | through some of the big life changes and transitions of our 20s and what they mean |
| 0:51.7 | for our psychology. |
| 0:57.1 | Hello everybody. Welcome back to the show. Welcome back to the podcast. New listeners, |
| 1:03.3 | old listeners, wherever you are in the world. It is so great to have you here back for another |
| 1:09.0 | episode as we of course break down the psychology |
| 1:12.4 | of our 20s. |
| 1:13.8 | Today, we are going to talk about romantic relationships in our 20s, specifically the question |
| 1:21.1 | of why do we settle during this decade? |
| 1:24.9 | Why do we date people? |
| 1:26.6 | We know we shouldn't be with. Why do we accept |
| 1:29.5 | less than we deserve? Why do we give people second chances, third chances, and cling on for |
| 1:37.5 | too long, despite objectively being in one of the best times in our lives of our lives to be single and to be |
| 1:48.0 | uncoupled and to be seeing kind of, you know, what's out there. Time and time again, I feel like I see |
| 1:54.5 | people and I hear from people in these mediocre relationships with, you know, individuals |
| 1:59.8 | they don't even seem to like, and yet they are |
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