346-Be Mature (Surrender Your Sexuality to God's Design)
Delight Your Marriage
Belah Rose
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🗓️ 30 June 2022
⏱️ 57 minutes
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Summary
When God said, "Let there be light," something amazing happened.
When I said, "Let there be light," ummm... well... I felt silly and 0 things, amazing or not, happened.
I guess I'm just not God. Which is surprising?
No, it's not.
But, the world thinks we get to decide who God is.
Unfortunately, too many Christians feel that way, too.
It's tragic.
God is not us.
And we don't get to live by feelings.
We don't get to say, "Today I feel x, so it must be true."
A follower of Jesus -- surrendered -- taking up his/her cross -- dying to his/herself -- is not led by his/her feelings.
Feelings of right and wrong...
Feelings of attraction or non-attraction (to spouse or many types of others...)
Feelings of desire for sexual intimacy...
Feelings of pleasure in sex...
Does this mean as a follower of Jesus you have to do things you don't want to do?
...
Ummm...
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Yes.
Does it mean that you have to do what the Bible says?
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Ummm...
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Yes.
Are there things I don't LIKE that the Bible says?
Yes.
Am I the one who said "Let there be light," and something happened?
No.
So, I get to humbly submit to the God and author of ALL and say "You're smarter, You're wiser, Your ways are better, and I'm going to submit my will/feelings/desires to You".
My sexuality included.
"No one should say God is tempting me...
but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death...
[God] does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth."
So, stop asking, "Why am I tempted?" Or, "Why don't I have desire for my spouse?" Or, "Why don't I enjoy sex?"
And instead, embrace the cross of Christ. Deny yourself. And decide this IS God's best for You.
The surrendered Christian's questions become: "How do I do this Your way?" "How do I have desire for my spouse?" "How do I love MY spouse the way You created them?" "How do I enjoy and find pleasure in the sexual intimacy You designed and ordained and said I should not withhold?"
Yes -- sexual intimacy is a spiritual battle. Do you surrender all to Jesus?
Or are you still self-surrendered? Self-guided? Self-centered?
I pray that this would be as convicting to you as it is to me. May you listen and feel God calling you to greater repentance, depth, love, and worship of Him.
Love,
Belah
PS -- We'd love to partner with you in this. God doesn't ask us to do any of this alone. We love helping people into joy in sexual intimacy and marriage at every level in every area. Get on a call with a Clarity Advisor to see if you'd be the right fit for us to help you in this vital part of life. delightyourmarriage.com/cc
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast. |
| 0:05.4 | You're joining me, Bella Rose, as I dive deep into the beauty, power, and truths about intimacy. |
| 0:11.6 | Learn not only the practicals, but the heart behind what making love is all about. |
| 0:16.8 | Delight your marriage. |
| 0:22.6 | Hey there, welcome. |
| 0:24.3 | This is Bella. |
| 0:25.8 | And I want to just say that I hope that wherever you are, this conversation is going to draw you |
| 0:34.7 | closer to God and closer to His will for your life. And I just |
| 0:39.0 | want to say I'm proud of you for clicking on this episode because clearly you want to follow God |
| 0:45.1 | the right way. You're not interested in following the easy way. But you want to do it the way |
| 0:52.5 | that God is kind of rooting you on to do. I mean, |
| 0:56.4 | this is his design and will, not following your own path, you know, and creating God in your own |
| 1:07.8 | image. That's not right. God did this. God created the earth. He's the one that has a |
| 1:16.2 | plan. He has a design. And we align ourselves with him. We are under the lordship of Jesus. |
| 1:25.3 | We're not under the lordship of our own understanding. Because I've got to raise |
| 1:30.6 | my hand and say, I'm not that smart. I can't even fathom most of what goes on in the world. |
| 1:43.5 | And I mean, the natural world that God designed. |
| 1:46.0 | I mean, I can't fathom the amount of knowledge, wisdom, understanding, insight, creative |
| 1:56.6 | power to make a simple, you know, plant occur and sustain life. Like that, I can't even |
| 2:10.2 | fathom. We don't, you know, we certainly understand quite a bit. We're getting there, but we can't |
| 2:15.2 | make a plant. We can't make life. We can't do that. |
| 2:21.5 | And so for me to then apply my own understanding to all these other areas of my life and say, |
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