343-When the Past Still Plagues Your Marriage
Delight Your Marriage
Belah Rose
4.7 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 10 June 2022
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
If your marriage is still plagued by your past mistakes -- she brings up what happened 20 years ago... or he brings up how you used to be all the time...
What can you do to heal it?
How can you two move forward and actually build a better marriage?
I would like you to remember some important scriptures on this topic:
It is His kindness that leads us to repentance.
He disciplines those He loves.
Whoever heeds discipline shows the ways to life.
And then this is the one that's super practical:
"if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar.
First, go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift."
How do you reconcile?
Apologize.
How do you make your apologies effective?
That is what I want to walk through with you on this episode.
I want you to have all of the know-how to get out there and do the scary, excruciating but necessary thing of owning your side and apologizing for it.
Is it 100% your fault. I bet not.
But, there is always an opportunity for us to own our side and for the purposes of getting right before God -- go and repair with your spouse.
I hope this helps and gives you the encouragement you need to do the right thing.
Blessings,
Belah
PS -- We'd love to support you in your marriage -- feel free to get on a Clarity Call with a Clarity Advisor to see how we can help transform your ho-hum marriage to one that's warm and inviting!
A recent grad wrote:
"I'm not exaggerating, I'm keeping it real…this is what I would tell anyone who asked…
I had been praying intensely for my marriage daily for 8 months... I had very limited improvements until starting the program.
The [Clarity] Advisor was warm and friendly and could empathize with my situation.
This program helped me stop doing the things that were undermining my efforts to improve my marriage.
I have spent much more money trying to rekindle my marriage with no results.
This might possibly be the best investment of my life."
We'd love to have you see this kind of transformation! delightyourmarriage.com/cc
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast. |
| 0:05.4 | You're joining me, Bella Rose, as I dive deep into the beauty, power, and truths about intimacy. |
| 0:11.6 | Learn not only the practicals, but the heart behind what making love is all about. |
| 0:16.8 | Delight your marriage. |
| 0:22.7 | Hello, this is Bella. |
| 0:25.4 | I'm grateful that you clicked on this episode, and yeah, let's get started on this really |
| 0:31.3 | important healing, scary, difficult, excruciating, humiliating practice of apologizing. Now, if you are at a place that you |
| 0:50.2 | want your marriage to get better and you know there's been tough stuff in the past which um |
| 0:56.2 | I think all of us isn't are in that category so I am as well this is an episode for you now |
| 1:06.1 | before we dive in I do want to invite you and remind you that if you have listened to me for a while, |
| 1:12.7 | you've heard our guests, you've been amazed by what God has done. I am also amazed at what God |
| 1:18.6 | is done. I mean, he just keeps doing it. It's awesome. And if you want to know more, we'd love to |
| 1:24.8 | have you on a clarity call to see if you'd be the right fit for us |
| 1:29.3 | to actually help you and walk alongside you and give you the tools that you need and the |
| 1:34.1 | encouragement and the accountability and the support and the community and all of those things, |
| 1:39.5 | extra coaching, tailored advice, we'd love to see if we can help you in your specific marriage. So to do that, |
| 1:47.8 | you can get on a clarity call with a clarity advisor who is trained to listen and to empathize |
| 1:53.7 | because they themselves have been in your shoes. They themselves went through a program and |
| 1:58.8 | witnessed transformation in their own lives and hearts and marriages. |
| 2:03.5 | And so you can do that by going to delightyourmarriage.com slash CC. |
| 2:08.5 | You schedule a call and you'll have an intake form. |
| 2:12.4 | And that just gives us the opportunity to prepare and then get on a call with, like I said, somebody who cares, |
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