Today we're continuing our assertiveness series and will focus on something very important.

How to say no in English without feeling guilty.

Hi, I'm Georgiana and I'm back with a new episode of the Speak English Now podcast, the podcast that helps you speak English fluently with no grammar and no textbooks.

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Why is it hard to say no?

Many English learners and even native speakers find it hard to say no.

Maybe you don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

Maybe you want to be polite, or maybe you feel nervous or shy.

But always saying yes can cause problems. You may feel stressed or overwhelmed,

and people may not understand your limits. Saying no is not rude if you say the right way.

In fact, saying no clearly helps others understand you better.

Let's look at some simple and polite ways to say no.

Be direct but kind. I'm sorry, I can't do that. Thanks for asking, but I have to say no.

You could give a short reason, although it's optional.

I'd love to help, but I'm already busy.

Or, I can't join because I have another appointment.

If you want, offer another time or option. For example, I can't today, but maybe tomorrow.

Or, I'm not available now, but you can ask Sarah. And most importantly, use a calm and friendly tone.

Even if you use the right words, your tone of voice is important.

Speak calmly and clearly.

Don't sound angry or nervous.

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