341 - How I Raised My Kids for Success - With Chris Do
The Futur with Chris Do
The Futur
5 • 976 Ratings
🗓️ 19 April 2025
⏱️ 62 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, I share my personal philosophy on parenting and how I raised my two sons to be independent, creative, and entrepreneurial. I reflect on my upbringing as a first-generation immigrant, the parenting styles I observed, and how I deliberately avoided helicopter parenting to foster self-sufficiency in my children.
I discuss the importance of setting firm boundaries while allowing freedom, why letting kids fail is crucial to their development, and how I instilled values of respect, decision-making, and responsibility. I also explore the long-term impact of parenting styles, how wealth and privilege affect children's behavior, and the consequences of overprotective parenting. If you're a parent, thinking about becoming one, or reflecting on your own upbringing, this episode offers valuable insights into raising resilient and capable kids.
Timestamps:
(00:00) – Why I’m sharing my parenting philosophy & my sons’ success stories
(02:51) – The difference between helicopter parenting and my laissez-faire approach
(06:24) – How my own upbringing shaped my parenting style
(10:42) – The two firm rules I set for my kids: Respect and Zero Tolerance for Violence
(16:02) – How affluent parents unintentionally weaken their children
(21:30) – The impact of decision-making skills on independence
(27:50) – The psychological effects of over-parenting and why kids struggle with confidence
(33:48) – Teaching kids financial responsibility and why my youngest filed taxes at 18
(40:46) – The illusion of choice: A strategy I learned from a family therapist
(47:16) – How enforcing boundaries and respect prepares kids for the real world
(53:12) – Breaking generational trauma and the dangers of repeating parenting mistakes
(58:40) – Final thoughts: How to raise kids who are capable, not coddled
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| 0:00.0 | I have two boys. They're not really boys anymore because my oldest is 21 and my youngest is 18. |
| 0:05.8 | The oldest is a super high achieving, hyper-intelligent person who's studying philosophy at Columbia. |
| 0:10.9 | My youngest is finishing up his first year at Art Center as an entertainment designer. |
| 0:15.2 | What's shocking about this is my youngest, before he even turned 18, has had to file taxes |
| 0:20.4 | because he has more than $200,000 |
| 0:22.1 | in his bank account. And the reason why he has this, I think, is because the way we raise them |
| 0:27.4 | to be free-range humans to be the creative souls that they're meant to be, and to give them |
| 0:31.7 | a wide birth to explore their individual identity and their own passions and pursuits and do as little |
| 0:36.9 | harm as possible. |
| 0:38.0 | In this episode, I'm going to share some stories and lessons that I've learned, parenting, |
| 0:42.4 | co-parenting with my wife and how we raised our children. |
| 0:45.2 | And I think this is especially applicable if you're a parent, thinking about being a parent, |
| 0:49.6 | or one that wish your parents would do something like this, because if we can just heal |
| 0:53.6 | from some of this trauma that we've been raised in, I think the world would be a better place. |
| 1:16.0 | All right, this episode is a little bit different than the kind of topics that you normally hear me talk about, but I think it's something really important. |
| 1:18.9 | I have a strong POV on, which is about how I raised my kids and my point of view as not |
| 1:24.8 | only a first generation immigrant, an Asian American, but a parent. |
| 1:29.0 | And the idea here is, what are my philosophies around how to raise an entrepreneurial child, |
| 1:35.1 | or how do you let the creative child survive into adulthood? I think those two ideas are actually |
| 1:39.8 | really, really similar, and we just use different language to describe them. I'm not that different than how many first-generation immigrants are raised by parents, |
| 1:49.1 | especially in the time in which we came to the United States in the 70s, |
| 1:52.1 | where we had two parents that were both working, so this is a dual-income household. |
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