Hey friends, Jamie Grace here. Welcome back to the Jamie Grace podcast. Today we're going to be talking about friendships.

It's kind of this story email message that I got kind of started with like a breakup context,

but it kind of really goes into something that I think a lot of us have dealt with in the context of friendships.

And it's actually something that I've kind of dealt with before, just when it comes to, closure and needing closure when it comes to like a friendship and stuff like that. So know that I may have said some of the stuff before in a past episode, but I just felt led to tackle it today. So yeah, I'm going to do this episode today. And then, of course, make sure you guys subscribe because we've got Proverbs, I think, Chapter 12, coming tomorrow. And so I'm really excited about that.

So, yeah, let's jump into this message from my Instagram DMs. She said, Jamie Grace, I need closure.

I was in a relationship with the guy for six years. We dated for four. We started getting interested in each other in middle school.

I want to just quickly interrupt and say that based on the timeline of this story and based on my looking at

her Instagram story, I think she's known him, or sorry, looking at her Instagram page,

I think she's known him for a while because she's not presently like in middle or high school.

So I think they've like known each other since middle school, but then maybe dated starting

in high school or starting after high school.

Anyways, continuing on with her message, I became super close with his family, especially his

sister. I moved in with his sister and some other close friends in mine. I had introduced all of

them, and she saw that my boyfriend, her brother, was being very manipulative and said that she

thought that we should break up. Months later, I did. About two months after the breakup, she also, she started spreading

lies around the house. All these lies have become, sorry, all these ladies have become like sisters to me,

but all of them believe these outrageous lies about me. All these lies, they accuse me of I don't

struggle with, but they do. They accuse me of being a gossip, being fake and being self-centered. I'm an INFJ, so no. I think she's hinting to her the fact that

she's like an introvert based on like a Myers-Briggs thing. Anyways, it just really hurts because

I long for closure. I long for my other friends to see how wrong they were and how bad they all

hurt me. I just don't know how to get closure from all this. My ex's family still attends my parents' church. I moved back in with my parents and I'm attending my old church again. My ex works on Sunday so I don't see him, but I see a sister. It's a very small church. She's kind of unavoidable. And I'm still very upset with her for spreading all those lies about me

but don't know how to address it or if I should.

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