You're listening to Your Anxiety Toolkit, episode number 34.

Hello and welcome.

Thank you again for joining us on Your Anxiety Toolkit.

I am honored to have you join me me and I'm excited to discuss with you

this week's episode about boundary setting. Now this is a continuation of the anxiety related

behaviors series that I'm doing and what I'm speaking about here specifically is about

behaviors that contribute to the cycle of

anxiety. Now, behaviors that we have discussed in the past, such as reassurance seeking and

avoidance, these are very much related to severe anxiety disorders such as OCD phobias panic disorder.

But it's very much true for just generalized anxiety.

And today what I'm speaking about when I talk about boundary setting is speaking directly

to setting boundaries with other people so that we don't get triggered into that anxiety cycle

of being concerned about what they think and being concerned that we have hurt someone's feelings

or that we aren't getting our needs met.

And hopefully from there, we can build a sense of self-esteem and a sense of responsibility to take care of our own needs

and get our own needs met. I think that in our society, we are not well trained to set boundaries.

We're often taught at a very young age that we should

appease other people and that it's selfish to ask for your needs to be met and that it's narcissistic

or arrogant to be clear with someone about your own needs and what's okay and not okay for you.

And this can be really problematic because in that training, that early childhood or early life

training, we forget to honor these very important needs that we have, which is, I have a right

to say no, I have a right to say yes. I can also share with you what sounds right to me and what

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