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Live better. Start now. Let's go. Hey, it's Ella. You know I love talking with you about how to change

the habits we don't want and how to

cultivate the ones that we do. Our tendency to repeat patterns, even when they don't serve us,

is often rooted in our desire for the familiar and our resistance to uncertainty. So we cling to

bad habits subconsciously because, ironically, they provide a sense

of comfort and predictability. Even if they are bad for us, they are familiar to us. So whether

it's saving more money or spending less, or creating more connection and maybe less doom scrolling, or less

drinking and more nourishment. Whatever it is, it's crucial to recognize our tendency toward what is

familiar and cultivate a relationship with the unfamiliar, with uncertainty, so that we can change. Because that is what change

requires, right? A small step into the unknown, a bit of uncertainty about how to navigate

through that change or really any new behavior we're trying to cultivate for ourselves. So today I'm

talking with my guest, Nicole Whiting, about being willing to be uncomfortable,

about recognizing that uncertainty is required for habit breaking and habit making.

And this is really important because fearing and avoiding uncertainty, whether it's

subconscious or not, it leads to unhealthy behaviors like withholding intimacy

or closing yourself off from growth and pushing the best version of you away. Embracing

uncertainty requires openness, vulnerability, and it provides opportunities for growth. So when we can let go of needing to control and that

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