336: Raising siblings and coping with estrangement, with Catherine Carr
The Scummy Mummies Podcast
Ellie Gibson and Helen Thorn
4.7 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 11 May 2026
⏱️ 59 minutes
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Summary
How common is sibling estrangement? Does birth order really determine your destiny? And is there anything we can do to make our kids get along? Helping us to answer all these questions is the awesome author Catherine Carr.
It's a big episode for Ellie, as she talks publicly for the first time about being estranged from her brother - why it's happened, and how she's learned to make peace with it.
Catherine shares what she's learned about the subject in the course of writing her excellent book, Who's the Favourite? We also discuss whether the myths about elder and younger siblings are true, and the role gender plays in family dynamics. Plus, we ask Catherine whether there's anything parents can do to help their kids' relationships run smoothly.
We finish of course with Scummy Mummy Confessions. This week: a sweaty incident, school admin stress, and Ellie's husband's peen.
Catherine's book is out now. Her podcast is called Relatively, and do check out her episode on Woman's Hour. You can follow her on Instagram @tall.lady.carr.
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| 0:00.0 | Hello, scumbags, this is the scummy mummies podcast, with your hosts, Ellie Gibson and Helen Thorne. |
| 0:16.4 | Hello and welcome to the scummy mummies podcast. I'm Annie Gibson and I'm Helen Thorne. And our guest |
| 0:21.9 | today is Catherine Carr. Welcome to the podcast, Catherine. Thank you. Thank you for joining us here in our |
| 0:28.2 | glamorous, she said in quote marks, dressing room at the Cambridge Junction. Yes. I mean, as I was |
| 0:34.0 | it, it's more glamorous than most dressing rooms we have, actually, in that it's got a working toilet. |
| 0:38.3 | There isn't a smell of mildew. |
| 0:40.3 | There's fresh milk. |
| 0:41.3 | That's unbelievable. |
| 0:42.5 | I mean, this is what you would call a five-star dressing room, because we have been in much, much worse. |
| 0:48.3 | Yes. |
| 0:48.7 | And a five-star guest to go in our five-star dressing room. |
| 0:52.7 | Who are you, Catherine Carr? I am a producer, presenter, |
| 0:57.4 | and now author. I've worked in radio for 25 years and I've just written my first book |
| 1:01.2 | all about siblings. Ah, so why siblings? Because I'm the middle, so I wanted some attention is really |
| 1:07.1 | that's the line I geared. I'm the middle of three girls. |
| 1:30.1 | And at the beginning of the pandemic, I was on the phone to Jane Garvey. I used to work for a woman's hour on Radio 4, and I was chatting to her and saying, I want to make my own podcast. I don't know what I want to do it about. I've just been talking to my two sisters. They work for institutions, which were very, very dramatic. And I was like, I should just make a podcast about my two sisters. |
| 1:30.1 | And she said, don't do that. they work for institutions which were very, very dramatic. And I was like, I should just make a podcast about my two sisters. |
| 1:31.5 | And she said, don't do that. |
| 1:34.0 | That would be a bit intrusive and a bit boring for everybody else. |
| 1:38.7 | But you should make a podcast about siblings because did you know it's potentially the longest relationship of your life. |
| 1:40.4 | And I honestly sat up straight and thought, no one's ever put it like that before. |
| 1:46.8 | And the genes in our family, my grandma died at 99, mean, I can't do the mess exactly, |
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