335-Don't Undermine Her (Sexual) Progress
Delight Your Marriage
Belah Rose
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🗓️ 8 April 2022
⏱️ 29 minutes
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Summary
This is a great sadness to me.
When a wife steps out (even an inch) from her comfort zone and her husband mishandles this vulnerability.
Whether it's an inch sexually or in any part of their relationship...vulnerability should be appreciated and complimented and encouraged.
Your response to her discovery of more sexual freedom (big or small) should be, "Oh! How can I love HER more, too?" Not, "Oh, how can I perfect/change/improve her attempts?"
Because the second piece undermines her sexual freedom. That is what saddens me and makes me pray that God will help me do this thing better.
That's why it grieves me at times that my podcast can be heard by both men and women... because the enemy WANTS your focus to be on yourself.
The enemy wants you to be focused on whether or not you're getting your "fair share". Or on "how can she love me better".
But if we can be more like Christ and put the focus on the other "how can I love her better?"
How can her attempts to love me... inspire me to love HER!? That's the heart I believe God wants us to have around this topic.
This is a part of what our Masculinity Reclaimed program addresses.
Maybe you have lost all hope that intimacy could be different and you may think you're doing all the right things -- everything I teach you to do, right? But, if it's still not working, you haven't tried the program and that might be the step you're missing.
Listen to the testimonials please, because you'll hear some stellar men who were doing it "right" and just couldn't get there until they followed the program and got incredible breakthroughs.
Our whole team will give you 100%, we'd love to have you on the inside!
Schedule a free Clarity Call to get started in our online courses to begin healing your marriage at delightyourmarriage.com/cc!
Love, blessings, & prayers,
Belah
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast. |
| 0:05.0 | You're joining me, Bella Rose, as I dive deep into the beauty, power, and truths about intimacy. |
| 0:11.0 | Learn not only the practicals, but the heart behind what making love is all about. |
| 0:17.0 | Delight your marriage. |
| 0:22.3 | Hi there. |
| 0:23.5 | Thank you for joining. |
| 0:24.3 | It's Bella. |
| 0:31.9 | But today I really want to invite you, whether you're a long-time listener or you're brand new, to really look at yourself and see what God might want to be speaking to you through today's episode. |
| 0:41.2 | Because a couple weeks ago, I released one about how duty sex hurts you as a husband and hurts her. |
| 0:50.6 | But today, I really want to focus on husbands because I think it's just extremely easy to look |
| 0:59.5 | on the other side of the street and say, yeah, she should be doing X, Y, Z. |
| 1:04.5 | And maybe there's a self-righteousness going on. |
| 1:08.7 | Maybe it's just pain and hurt and woundedness because you're not being loved the way God |
| 1:12.9 | designed you to be loved as a man in the ways he designed you. |
| 1:18.1 | But I want to talk about what ways you may be unknowingly undermining the progress that maybe |
| 1:27.3 | you've seen. This is for men. They need to hear this. |
| 1:32.0 | And I hope that you will listen closely. |
| 1:43.3 | So here's what happens sometimes, and it breaks my heart. |
| 1:49.7 | It doesn't happen all the time, but when a wife comes through the program, in fact, this is why I had to change the program so much around wives, just a little understanding because you'll find out from me, |
| 2:04.5 | I really care about these things working, the program's working, and so I change things |
| 2:10.7 | because I'm really trying to notice, is this working or is this not? And the husband's course is set up completely differently than the wives course. |
| 2:22.1 | Because I've tried to teach and coach the wives the same way that I teach and coach |
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