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Brave Writer

333. Resisting FOMU, the Fear of Messing Up

Brave Writer

Julie Bogart and Melissa Wiley

Books, Education, Arts, Kids & Family, Education For Kids

4.8 • 927 Ratings

🗓️ 1 April 2026

⏱️ 59 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

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Summary

What if the biggest obstacle in your homeschool isn’t what you’re missing—but the fear that you’re doing it wrong?

This week, we explore “fear of messing up” and how perfectionism quietly shapes our expectations, decisions, and confidence as parent educators. We unpack where that pressure comes from, how it shows up (hello, endless curriculum switching), and why chasing the “perfect” method keeps us stuck.

We also share practical ways to shift your focus toward connection, curiosity, and process—plus tools like interval training and a flexible writing app to support real learning.

Ready to trade perfection for progress? Let’s rethink what success actually looks like.

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0:50.1

Welcome back to the Brave Rider podcast, which is professional development for the parent educator.

0:56.8

We are so glad that you're here. Hello, Melissa. Hi, Julie. Hello, everybody. It's great to have

1:02.7

everyone return week by week. What do we have on the menu of ideas today, Melissa? I am so intrigued by this term that you shared with me. Did you make this up,

1:15.6

Julie? Did you come up with FOMU, fear of messing up? I don't know if I can take credit for it,

1:21.1

but I can't remember learning it either. So I might have. I really love it.

1:28.4

Like we all know what FOMO is.

1:30.1

Yes.

1:30.7

But fear of messing up, I just reading it, I was like, oh, oh, yeah, okay.

1:37.9

So many of us live with this persistent feeling of not getting enough done or doing the wrong things or having regrets

1:48.4

later that our kids point out to us. And I think that can really dominate our imaginations

1:54.0

when we're trying to lesson plan and execute. We're wondering if we are messing up,

2:00.0

not just that we might be missing out or that we might be missing information, but that we're doing it wrong.

2:05.8

I think that is really what we want to talk about today, not just not doing enough, but what if you're not doing it correctly or right or you're making a big mistake?

2:16.5

That's what I like about the phrase,

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