We've been dating for a few months and I remember specifically we had like just

gotten back from a trip to Disneyland. We've gone on the date to Disneyland

together. He had treated. He'd offered like I'll buy Disneyland tickets.. Yeah you know it's pricey and so like

cool awesome and then I think later that week we ended up finally having a little bit of like a

relationship definition talk you know a little bit of a like, where's this going,

is this going to be exclusive, is it going to be monogamous, and I had spent some time thinking

about it and I expressed to him very honestly like, yeah, I just know.

I don't think that monogamy is a thing that I can offer right now I'm still

Really interested in looking at non monogamy and he specifically said to me like if I'd known that I wouldn't have bought Disneyland tickets.

Yeah. Yikes. Yikes, yikes. You want to know the even more yikes part.

Welcome to the multi-amore podcast. I'm Jace, I'm Emily, and I'm Dettaker. We believe in looking to the future of

relationships, not maintaining the status quo of the past. So whether you're monogamous,

polyamorous, swinging,

casually dating, or if you just do relationships differently,

we see you, and we're here for you.

Fongs I know I did.

Forcing me to form myself to fit. On this episode of the multi-ammery podcast we're talking about transactional

relationships. There are some people and some relationships out there where people will only perform

active kindness for one another if they know they're going to get something in return,

or maybe there's a more formalized transactional part of the relationship.

And sometimes this type of interaction can result in unfortunate push-pull relationships and unhealthy power dynamics.

So this week we wondered, why do people get into transactional relationships?

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