Hi, I'm Jen Ridey, and this podcast is for women who want to feel more vibrant, happy,

aligned, and alive. You'll gain the emotional, physical, and spiritual tools you need to get your

sparkle back and ensure that depression, anxiety, and struggle don't rule your life.

Welcome to the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast.

Hey there, my friends.

Have you ever felt like you're stuck, not knowing where you're going, what's ahead, like you're treading water?

Well, I recently, or maybe for the past two years during the pandemic, found myself in that place. And if that is you,

this episode is absolutely for you. You know, as women, we have been socialized essentially by our

own mothers, by other women, by society, by cultural and religious traditions to put everyone's

needs ahead of our own. And I find it fascinating how easily I and everyone I know how I have

bought into that fact as a truth. It is true that a good mother should put her kids ahead of herself,

should put her spouse's needs first. I recently was coaching a friend and a woman who has a belief

that her husband's happiness is more important than her own. She learned it years ago.

And by coaching together, she began to be able to examine this belief and to see how harmful it can be.

One of the questions I asked her was, you know, if you saw your kids grow up to feel the way you feel now, would that be acceptable?

And she immediately got this look of fear on her face.

And she said, no, I would never want my kids, especially my daughters, to feel the way I do now,

to feel empty and burned out like nothing I did mattered, that all I ever do is feed my kids

and put my kids to bed and help my kids.

No way.

And so that began a moment of decision.

That began a journey of finding out what she likes again, of living and not just existing, of analyzing and letting go of beliefs like that, my husband's happiness is more important

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