This is Optimal Health Daily, The Anger Iceberg by Kyle Benson with gotman.com, and I'm Dr. Neil Malick.

Hey there and welcome to another bonus Sunday episode, where I share an article from one of the other

podcasts and our network that I think will add some value for you here. Today's post comes from

Optimal Relationships Daily, where Greg reads articles to you

each day that help you improve the many relationships in your life. So with that, here's his narration

and commentary as we optimize your life. The Anger Iceberg by Kyle Benson of Gottman.com. Have you ever wondered why we get angry? According to

psychologist Daniel Goldman, quote, emotions are, in essence, impulses to act, the instant plans for

handling life that evolution has instilled in us,

end quote. In his book, Emotional Intelligence, Goldman tells us that anger causes blood to

flow to our hands, making it easier for us to strike an enemy or hold a weapon. Our heart rate

speeds up and a rush of hormones, including adrenaline, create

a surge of energy strong enough to take, quote, vigorous action. In this way, anger has been

ingrained into our brain to protect us. The purpose of anger. If you are unsure of why you

are feeling angry, try thinking of anger like an iceberg.

Most of an iceberg is hidden below the surface of the water.

Similarly, when we're angry, there can be other emotions hidden beneath the surface.

It's easy to see a person's anger, but it can be difficult to see the underlying feelings the anger is protecting. For example,

Dave believed he had an anger problem. When his wife would make a request of him, he would criticize

her. He didn't like his reactions, but he felt he couldn't help it. As he worked on discovering

his dreams within conflict and started noticing the space between

his anger and his actions, he opened up the door into a profound realization.

He didn't really have an anger problem.

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