330: The Respect Myth That Was Ruining My Marriage
The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle
Laura Doyle
4.7 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 17 March 2026
⏱️ 66 minutes
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Summary
Bassie believed respect had to be earned. So she waited 30 years for her husband to earn it.
She thought she could motivate him by pointing out what he needed to work on—his harsh behavior, the problems with their car and their struggling finances. Instead, it drained the intimacy from their marriage, and each anniversary served as a reminder of what was still not right.
Then her husband lost the most prestigious job of his career. Bassie's anger exploded, and she realized she had reached the darkest moment of their marriage.
For the first time in 30 years, she decided to change her approach, and the pattern between them began to change.
Today, Bassie feels a lightness she's never experienced before. Her husband surprises her with diamond jewelry, fills her gas tank, and calls himself her knight in shining armor. Their empty nest years are romantic and deeply connected.
If you're waiting for your husband to step up, Bassie's story shows what might be possible if you're willing to consider a different perspective.
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| 0:00.0 | I kept waiting for him to correct that about himself and then I would respect him. |
| 0:06.1 | But really, it was the opposite. |
| 0:08.9 | The therapist told him that he would be teaching your children a wonderful lesson by allowing me to correct him in front of them. |
| 0:18.5 | That that would show them how teachable and |
| 0:23.6 | flexible he was. |
| 0:25.9 | Real women, real marriages. |
| 0:27.9 | This is the Empowered Wife podcast. |
| 0:30.4 | Bosse believed that respect had to be earned. |
| 0:33.7 | So she waited 30 years. |
| 0:36.7 | And while she waited, she corrected her husband, managed him, |
| 0:39.9 | parented him with a therapist's blessing. Then he lost the most prestigious job of his career. |
| 0:48.9 | And Bossie lost her mind right along with it. Are you falling for the same respect myth as Bossy? She'd tried the six |
| 0:57.1 | intimacy skills before, but they hadn't really worked, not really. But this time, something |
| 1:03.6 | happened on a group coaching call that stopped her cold. One question, four words, and it cracked her |
| 1:10.0 | wide open. What were those four words? and it cracked her wide open. |
| 1:11.5 | What were those four words? |
| 1:12.9 | And after 30 years of waiting, did anything actually change? |
| 1:17.3 | Bossie's going to tell you, stay till the end for your try it tonight takeaway. |
| 1:22.4 | Bossy, welcome to the Empowered Live podcast. |
| 1:25.5 | So great to have you here. |
| 1:29.0 | Thank you so much, Laura. |
| 1:36.4 | Pleasure to be here. So how did you know that your husband was the one? Like, what first drew you to him? Well, my husband was my knight in shining armor right from the start. |
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