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ADHD reWired

330 | June 2020 Q&A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb

ADHD reWired

Eric Tivers, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education

4.8937 Ratings

🗓️ 14 July 2020

⏱️ 70 minutes

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Summary

Do you have trouble transitioning from work to home? Listen as Eric Tivers with his guests, Brendan Mahan, and Will Curb answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. Ella starts off this Q&A episode with a question about how to avoid doing things that pop up when things have to be done. Listen as Karen has a question that we are all dealing with now, working from home versus being in the office and the pluses and minuses of both. Matt has a question about relationships and his inability to be patient when trying to make friends. Audrey has two questions for the panel: writing more concise email responses and tips on ways to stop losing things. Blake asks a question for his wife. When they have children, how hard will the load be on her? The panel says that you can only speculate on the challenges that they will face until you have kids. Nathan was recently diagnosed with ADHD and wants to know the first five things he should learn about ADHD, and the last question is on Zoom fatigue and what causes it. If you had a question that wasn't answered, please ask it in our Facebook community, and someone will share their insights, and we will catch you next month on our next Q&A episode. Your Resources: ADHD Essentials Podcast with Brendan Mahan Hacking Your ADHD with William Curb You'll Learn: [02:01] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan. [03:28] Ella has a question about avoiding things that pop-up instead of what I should do? [05:55] Will speaks about discipline and how that is hard with ADHD. [07:11] Brendan gives his insights on this issue. [09:31] Karen has a question about the pluses and minuses about working from home or the office. [10:55] Eric says that everyone's experience will be different and for Karen to ask her team which they prefer. [12:09] Will speaks about how different it is to work from home when you have kids and how going to the office gives him a stop time. [14:22] Brendan discusses the transition from the office to home. [16:27] Even if you have phenomenal communication skills, you might not notice how stressed your team members are if you don't see them. [17:31] Eric shares his experience when working with an assistant. [19:31] Matt has a question about relationships. [20:38] Eric says that relationships are one of the hardest domains in life. [21:22] Brendan gives his insights on relationships and how he made his friend group an adult. [24:30] Eric comments on how Brendan shares intimacy with his friends. [26:47] Eric believes that making friends as an adult is a topic more people need to talk about. [32:44] Audrey asks how I can write emails to be more concise. [33:50] Eric speaks about some tools that can help you respond to emails. [35:21] Brendan shares his thoughts on this question. [37:20] Will discusses what has helped him answer emails. [38:31] Audrey wants tips on how she can keep from losing things. [40:28] Brendan shares what he has done since high school to keep from losing things. [41:46] Will says he loses things a lot because he sets things down in weird places. [44:09] Do you look for something even though you are convinced you will not find where it is? [47:40] Blake wants to know what kind of load his wife will bear if they have kids. [48:35] Once you have kids it is much easier to navigate the challenges [50:11] Nothing can prepare you for having children is an accurate statement. [52:07] Will suggests balancing the load of work between both of you. [53:28] Brendan shares his insights. [54:46] Eric says that deciding to have children is the hardest decision anyone has to make. [56:32] They give Nathan recommendations on the five things he should learn first after his recent ADHD diagnosis. [58:38] Will says that getting sleep is the most important thing you can do. [58:52] Brendan says that forgiveness is critical to self-care and ADHD management. [59:22] How do we complete things? Is the next question they share. [1:00:19] Brendan says to define done and set a boundary around what done means. [1:01:11] The panel discusses Zoom fatigue and what the cause could be. [1:03:49] If you want deeper dives into your questions, join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for the Patreon coaching call. [1:04:29] If you are not a Patreon, share your questions in our Facebook community. [1:04:37] We appreciate you for listening to the show! [1:05:32] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at www.ADHDreWired.com Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

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Everyone always talks about how the transition to work is helpful, right?

0:04.0

And no one ever talks about the transition back home,

0:07.0

or at least very few people talk about the transition back home.

0:10.2

And that's critical, because if we are working from home and we have the kind of job where it's like go do this go do that and it's very like I'm in the boss or I'm in charge right make rapid fast decisions and I have to be very sort of commanding, you got to be able to let

0:26.3

go with some of that before you transition back home because otherwise you're going to talk

0:31.0

to your spouse and your kids in a very like demanding

0:34.0

bossy way and that is not a good thing like especially in COVID when we're all stuck in the house

0:41.3

together if you're sort of rubbing people the wrong way

0:44.3

because you can do that at work,

0:45.5

but you can't really do it at home

0:46.6

because you need to be caring and kind.

0:48.3

Like, you should be at work too, but maybe you're not.

0:50.8

If you don't take time to transition back to dad or mom mode, it's going to maybe not work as well. So pay attention to that reverse transition too.

1:00.0

AED required episode 330.

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This is the podcast for those of us

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with really good intentions and a slightly wandering attention.

1:11.9

I'm Erica Tivirs, I'm a licensed clinical social worker by training and a coach by design. I'm your host and I have ADHD.

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ADHD rewired is more than just a podcast. We are a community. We are wired for connection and you are not

1:26.1

alone. Go to ADHD rewired.com to learn how you can join us in our free secret Facebook group.

1:32.0

Get additional resources for every episode including links to any resources we mentioned on today's show.

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