327: The 82 Percent #4: What if you found your family on the path of celibacy?
This Is Actually Happening
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🗓️ 9 July 2024
⏱️ 60 minutes
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Summary
After immigrating from Brazil to the US, a man struggles with isolation, depression, faith and sexual orientation, when one day an awakening leads him on a path to celibacy and to a family he never thought he’d have.
Today’s episode featured Art Pereira. If you’d like to reach out to Art, you can email him at [email protected] or find him on Instagram @art_per. Art Pereira is the director of events and partnerships for Revoice, a Christian ministry that supports LGBTQ+ Christians who follow a historic sexual ethic. You can also find Revoice on Instagram @revoiceorg. Art currently lives in New Jersey with his best friend and numerous houseplants.
This episode is the fourth of our six-part miniseries called the 82 Percent: Modern stories of love and family, produced in collaboration with the Modern Family Institute @modernfamilyinstitute. If you’d like to find out more about the Modern Family Institute, donate to help advance their work, or get engaged, please visit their website, modernfamilyinstitute.org.
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Producers: Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Jason Blalock
Content/Trigger Warnings: self-harm, suicidal ideation, sexual themes, explicit language
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is actually happening features real experiences that often include traumatic events. |
| 0:04.1 | Please consult the show notes for specific content warnings on each episode and for more information about support services. Today we continue our six-part miniseries called The 82%, modern stories of love and family. |
| 0:23.7 | I'm thrilled to announce today that in celebration of this series for the first time ever |
| 0:28.3 | will be hosting a live event for the show on July 24th at Manne's in San Francisco. Collaborators from the Modern Family Institute, |
| 0:36.4 | Lily and Heath, will join me and several storytellers from the series, including co-creation and |
| 0:41.8 | David Jay from the first and second episodes. |
| 0:44.6 | To get tickets, go to the Manies website at welcome to manies.com. |
| 0:49.3 | Events. That's Manies M-A-N-Y-S and find our event the other 82% listed on their website on July 24th. |
| 0:59.0 | You can check the show notes for a direct link to get tickets to attend and follow us on Instagram for updates |
| 1:04.3 | at actually happening. So come to Manies in San Francisco on July 24th and join me |
| 1:10.3 | that this is actually happening team the Modern Family Institute in conversation |
| 1:14.3 | with some of the storytellers from this series. But today we bring you the fourth |
| 1:18.5 | episode of our 82% series. What if you found your family on the path of celibacy? |
| 1:26.0 | Life as a gay person comes with a million threads that you have to pull, |
| 1:30.0 | and most of us don't have enough safety to pull any of them for very long. |
| 1:35.0 | We spend our life trying to sort of cover up the edges that are fraying. |
| 1:40.0 | We don't have to choose. We don't have to pick one side or the other. We can be whole people who hold all of who we are. From Wondery, I'm Witt Misledyne. You are listening to this is actually happening. Episode 3, |
| 2:07.0 | 327, the 82% |
| 2:13.0 | What have you found your family on the path of celibacy? |
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