Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. I have a question for you, which

do you think is better to be in control of our lives or to be in alignment with our lives?

You can probably guess which way I'm leaning, but I don't think it's a black and white

answer initially.

What I mean is when life isn't going well or the way we want,

we may want to change things, we may want to control things, for example.

I think for a lot of us doing a job that we loved would be great, but that

isn't always the way life goes.

So we try to get in control of life and say, I'm going to change this, I'm going to make this better. I know if I had a

different boss my life would be better or if I'm able to generate more income from my

job my life is definitely going to be better. So we try to control these things.

And I think control really kicks in

when there's a desire or fear behind it.

For example, let's say we grew up in a very impoverished environment, and we didn't like it that our parents struggled.

It was hard, and sometimes other people made fun of us because they had a lot more than we did.

And the way we may try to control this is earn as much money as we can,

perhaps with getting a professional degree or working really hard in order to amass a lot of money.

I think a lot of people do this. They want to be in control of their destiny because they weren't as a kid, and so they just choose things that they think will ultimately make them happy.

But really at its core alignment isn't about

being in control. It's about flowing with who you are. Now there's nothing wrong with trying

to get a job that pays well or at least pays the bills.

But wouldn't it be far better to do a job that could cover our expenses that we loved that was in alignment with our passions versus just doing it?

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