Welcome to the Widowed Mom Podcast, episode 327, from alone to connected.

Three ways widows can ease loneliness in public.

Welcome to the Widowed Mom podcast, the only podcast that offers a proven process to help you work through your grief to grow, evolve, and create a future you can truly look

forward to. Here's your host, Master Certified Life Coach, Grief Expert, Widow, and Mom, Krista

St. Germain.

Hey there, welcome to another episode of the podcast. Quick little update from my world before we jump in. I am moved in and mostly settled. There's art on the walls. The sewer work is done. The rug for my living room has been ordered. And unfortunately with that sewer work, I'm so glad it was caught during inspection. But wow, I had no idea how invasive sewer work could be to one's yard. So the flower beds, the sprinklers, the grass, lots of work will need to be done. But I have chosen to believe that this is my opportunity to make it what I want. Because honestly, the grass looked good. But I didn't love what was going on in the flower beds. And I didn't love the landscaping. So I'm going to make it what I want, because honestly, the grass looked good. But I didn't love

what was going on in the flower beds, and I didn't love the landscaping. So I'm going to make the best of it.

I'm going to make it what I want. And something that kind of inspired this episode, I discovered that

my new neighborhood has a wine night once a month for the ladies in the neighborhood, which I love.

And I remember there would have been a time where I would have gone to something like that and been surrounded by people,

and I would have felt incredibly lonely, especially after Hugo first died. And so that's what I

want to talk about today, is what it's like to feel lonely when you're

surrounded by people. And three things that you can actually do about it. I'm going to give you

three. And then I'm actually going to give you a couple of bonus additional suggestions.

But I'm guessing that if you're listening to this episode, you probably relate. You have been in a

crowded place. Maybe you're at a party or an event or a concert or even the grocery store. And suddenly,

you actually felt more alone than maybe you do when you're home by yourself. There's literally

people around you and yet you feel alone. And everyone else maybe seems to be laughing or you're seeing couples holding hands or you're seeing groups of couples and people are catching up with friends and being social. And you feel like the outsider. It's a pretty common experience for most widows. And so that's why I want to talk about it. So let's get into three powerful things

that you can do. And they are not complicated or difficult. They're actually quite simple.

But three things that you can do so you can shift from feeling alone, lonely, to feeling more

connected, even if you're a widow standing in a crowd of couples. Okay, here we go. Number one,

I want you to shift what you look for. Remember that your brain is always scanning the

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