326: The 82 Percent #3: What if you discovered a new way to love?
This Is Actually Happening
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🗓️ 2 July 2024
⏱️ 57 minutes
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Summary
Growing up in the crack epidemic surrounded by gangs, drugs, and violence a man begins repeating these patterns of abuse and infidelity in his relationships, but after a family tragedy, he finds a new path, opening his marriage and his heart.
Today’s episode featured Adrian McCoy.
This episode is the third of a six-part miniseries called the 82 Percent: Modern stories of love and family, produced in collaboration with the Modern Family Institute @modernfamilyinstitute. If you’d like to find out more about the Modern Family Institute, donate to help advance their work, or get engaged, please visit their website, modernfamilyinstitute.org.
Producers: Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Aviva Lipkowitz
Content/Trigger Warnings: domestic violence, gang violence, gun violence, abuse, murder, drug addiction, sexual themes, explicit language
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| 0:00.0 | This is actually happening features real experiences that often include traumatic events. |
| 0:04.1 | Please consult the show notes for specific content warnings on each episode and for more information about support services. Hi listeners. Today we continue our six-part miniseries called The 82% Modern Stories of Love and Family. |
| 0:25.0 | The series was created in collaboration with Dr. Heath Shechinger and Lily Lamboy from the Modern |
| 0:30.0 | Family Institute and will run through the end of the season in late July. |
| 0:34.2 | This week will also be releasing a bonus content conversation between me and Jessica Fern, |
| 0:38.9 | author of Polysecure and Polywise, two books that explore Polyamory, attachment, and opening up. |
| 0:45.4 | Our conversation was released last week on Wundry Plus and will be released this coming |
| 0:49.5 | Thursday to all listeners. |
| 0:51.6 | But today we bring you the third episode of our 82% series. What if you discovered |
| 0:56.2 | a new way to love? |
| 1:00.6 | If you really want someone to trust you, you have to make sure that you react in a way that creates an atmosphere where trust can survive. |
| 1:09.0 | If you are reacting in a way to a person's truth as if they're disgusting or if you're |
| 1:15.1 | disappointed or if they made the wrong decision you're really just telling that |
| 1:19.7 | person that they can't be real with you they they can't be 100% with you. |
| 1:23.8 | I've learned to 100% accept my persons as who they are. |
| 1:29.1 | Regardless of what difficulty it may cause me, I'm not here to change you. I'm here to enjoy you as |
| 1:36.4 | you are. From Wundery, I'm Witt Misledyne. You are listening to this is actually happening. |
| 2:07.0 | Episode 326. The 82%, what if you discovered a new way to love? Would you believe it? |
| 2:12.0 | Would you believe it? |
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