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We're back with pursuer needs and how we can help pursuers get what they need from their partner better.

They certainly deserve it, Laurie.

Yes, we do.

Welcome to For Play Radio, couples and sex therapy.

I'm Laurie Watson, your sex therapist.

And I'm George Fallon, the couples therapist.

And we are passionate about talking about sex and helping you develop a way to talk to each other.

Our mission is to help our audience develop a healthier relationship to sex

that integrates the mind, the heart and the body.

Always interesting when I'm working with a couple who ask to pursue what they need.

And here comes the laundry list of what they need their partner to do differently.

Right? And a lot of times that lands on the partner is what?

Just as an overwhelming demand that they're never good enough.

Right. It hits their butt and it sounds like criticism.

And they start to disengage and here we are again.

Right? So we really want these pursuers to get clearer what we call view of self,

to go more within themselves to figure out what is it that they need?

What would help? What's the opposite of rejection?

Acceptance, right? Okay.

Good. So with that acceptance, how can their partners show it to them?

So that we're looking for active words from their partner.

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