Hey there, you're listening to the Lazy Genius podcast. I am Kendra Adachi and I'm here to help you be a genius about the things that matter and lazy about the things that don't.

Today is episode 323. How to Lazy Genius a big change. One of the most common questions I get is how to lazy genius some kind of big change.

A new city, job, kid, relationship, leaving a career, a friend group, or a religion, losing a spouse, a parent, or the connection with your kid that you used to have but you don't feel like you do anymore because now they're a teenager.

Becoming a stay-at-home parent, going back to work, becoming an empty nester, going through a terrible breakup and suddenly being alone. I mean, holy moly you guys. It's Monday morning. This is so depressing.

There are a lot of big changes we all experience and none of us are immune from them. Also, reading that list, it really does make me feel kind of heavy inside. Those are some pretty major things.

And even imagining navigating them, it takes it out of me. So what happens when that's like our actual life, right?

So today we're going to talk about how to lazy genius a big change.

Now the reason I have never done an episode like this and why honestly it's hard to answer questions about big changes, say in DMs or emails, is because there's not a simple answer.

There's not really a formula to get your head around the whole thing, around the whole big change and make it make sense.

And that's why big changes are challenging, right? They're enormous and we want the whole thing to make sense, but it can't in the way we want it to.

But we also don't want to just sit there and let the big change happen to us without doing anything to prepare for it or navigate through it either.

So here's what we're going to do today. First, I'm going to share four principles of a big change that I want you to remember and repeat and internalize until they become more natural to you.

Second, I'm going to give you two questions to help you create some understanding around your big change.

And third, I'm going to give you two choices you could make after you answer those questions. Lots of numbers.

Okay, let's start with the four principles of big change.

Number one, I don't have to wrap my head around every part of this. I don't have to wrap my head around every part of this.

Please just give yourself permission to not figure every single detail out or to think that you should.

Big changes, life transitions, overwhelming circumstances that mark a before and an after.

Those things have a lot of layers and details and things you could consider.

That does not mean you have to understand every single one right now.

So number one, I do not have to wrap my head around every part of this.

Number two, I don't have to anticipate every need. I don't have to anticipate every need.

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