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Welcome to the show. I'm Jordan Harbinger. As always, I'm here with producer Jason de filibault.

On the Jordan Harbinger show, we decode the stories, secrets and skills of the world's most brilliant and interesting people and turn their wisdom into practical advice that you can use to impact your own life and those around you.

We want to help you see the matrix when it comes to how these amazing people think and behave when we want you to become a better thinker.

If you're new to the show, we've got episodes with spies and CEOs, athletes and authors, thinkers and performers, as well as toolboxes for skills like negotiation, public speaking, body language persuasion and more.

So if you're smart and you like to learn and improve, then you'll be right at home here with us.

Today, a lot of people have asked me for advice in the past 13 years, and some do a better job than others at getting to the point, making a clear ask and doing this all with enough finesse to get an answer that they can actually use.

But why does some people seem so successful at reaching out and asking for advice, and others seem to either hit a dead end or get muddy, non-actionable advice, or they just never hear back at all?

In today's conversation, Gabriel Mizrahi and I break down the right way to ask for advice, what to do when you get it, and how to turn something as awkward as asking someone else for a favor into a fruitful relationship for both parties.

This episode is highly actionable and is a toolbox for reaching out to others, seeking their wisdom or expertise, which is a skill set that can be used in any context, either in our personal lives, business or career, and I look forward to hearing what you think of it.

Another skill set that I highly prize that I think is responsible for the majority, frankly, of my success in business and just personally, networking and relationship development, not the gross kind where you're just throwing business cards and people's faces.

I've got a free course for you over at jordanharbinger.com slash course. It just takes a few minutes per day.

Again, it's free, no upsell, no entering your credit card, just learn some badass networking skills. That's how I book the guest for the show. It's also how I get deals for opportunities for my business and trust me if you've been listening to the show for a while, you know that I seem to get lucky a lot.

And it's because of the networks. So go grab that course. JordanHarbinger.com slash course. And by the way, most of the guests here on the show actually subscribe to the course and the newsletter.

So come join us and you'll be in great company.

Now let's go with a deep dive on how to ask for advice.

So a few months ago a random listener of the show, he hits me up on Instagram. A lot of people hit me up on Instagram and they ask for advice.

And he said something like, I need some guidance on following my dream, which is always kind of a red flag. But look, people have dreams. I get it.

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