Hi, Cynthia and Tricia. I had a very fast labor that only lasted about 90 minutes. At the hospital, my midwife said, if you called us earlier, maybe you want to have torn so badly. Is there actually anything they could have done to prevent a severe tear in that situation? This is what's going on for second time moms.

He's now done at once.

So he's a completely different partner the second time around. He's confident now. He has no idea what he's doing the first time around. Now he's confident. He's like, oh, yeah, no, we're going to go do this again. It'll be fun or we know what we're doing this time. And she's like, wait a minute, I'm starting from square one with every single pregnancy.

That's the biggest. this time. And she's like, wait a minute, I'm starting from square one with every single pregnancy.

That's the biggest difference that I see between couples. The dads get increasingly confident and

comfortable, understandably. But for that woman, she is starting from square one. She has to go

through pregnancy again. She has to go through birth again.

The brain gets in the way. You just, yeah, try not to think about the past experience.

Try to just focus on what you are feeling in this pregnancy, in this moment, and don't get too far ahead of yourself because that's what causes anxiety.

I'm Cynthia Overgard, owner of Hypnoiburthing of Connecticut, childbirth advocate, and

postpartum support specialist.

And I'm Trescia Ludwig, certified nurse midwife and international board certified lactation

consultant.

And this is the down-to-birth podcast.

Childbirth is something we're made to do.

But how do we have our safest and most satisfying experience in today's medical culture?

Let's dispel the myths and get down to birth.

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