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Brave Love Great Sex – Couples Therapy Podcast

318: Desire After the Wedding Cake – Is Marriage An Anti-Aphrodisiac?

Brave Love Great Sex – Couples Therapy Podcast

Cloud10

Sexuality, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.62K Ratings

🗓️ 14 January 2022

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

What happens to sexual desire after marriage? Everything can change! Men are usually sexually consistent throughout the dating process and marriage. Women, on the other hand, are statistically more likely to switch from sultry to celibate after the wedding cake digests. Even women who were sexually engaged throughout the dating process can fizzle out once they embrace married life. For husbands, the switch can be confusing, and so in this episode, we will try to iron out a bit of that confusion by digging into what it is about marriage that dampens sexual desire.  Research concludes that in dating and early partnership, what secures a woman emotionally is male sexual desire.  Women rely on this primal sense from men that creates a feeling of being wanted. As far-fetched as it sounds, in early partnership, the man’s relative emotional availability is not meaningful in making her feel secure. What makes her feel secure is his sexual desire for her. In short, male desire drives female desire, but unfortunately, desire also has enemies. While it’s easy to blame marriage, the byproducts of marriage–time and togetherness–are the real villains. Listen as we talk about the real reasons for the shift in desire after marriage! “Being desired is the best sexual orgasm for women.” – Meredith Chivers, Canadian sex researcher Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

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0:02.3

Laurie, so what is it about this marriage off switch that seems to get hit with wives?

0:09.2

The anti-Afrogesiac is wedding cake.

0:13.5

Uh-oh.

0:14.3

Let's talk about it.

0:18.4

Welcome to For Play Radio, couples in Sex Therapy.

0:21.4

I'm Laurie Watson, your sex therapist.

0:23.9

And I'm George Fallon, your couples therapist.

0:26.3

And we are passionate about talking about sex and helping you develop a way to talk to each other.

0:32.1

Our mission is to help our audience develop a healthier relationship to sex that integrates

0:38.4

the mind, the heart, and the body.

0:43.2

All right, so I think this topic today Laurie, we might wind up asking more questions

0:47.9

than having answers to. I just would love to have an episode where we could just kind of talk and

0:53.6

hypothesize and throw things out there, really just invite our listeners to a conversation with

0:58.8

each other and just to explore. And how cool is that green brain when it's curious and

1:04.1

which is kind of hanging out with each other because we can find connection there.

1:07.7

So what is going on here with, you know, this typical and recognizing there's lots of

1:13.6

exceptions and we can't put everybody into one category, but this seems to be this general kind

1:19.4

of pattern with a lot of couples where the girlfriends that are really kind of sexually active

1:27.1

and engaged and pursuing and you know, we have this this great dating sex that the couple describes

1:33.9

both of them would agree. And that's something happens when they get married early on that something

1:38.7

seems to shift and that that kind of pursuing desire sexuality in the girlfriend kind of diminishes

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