Whenever people meet me, they say, you're the get it done guy. You must be amazing at setting goals. Actually, I've had a love-hate relationship with goals for many years. Goals have helped me achieve things, but at the price of too much stress and worry. Furthermore, we all believe that life will be better off by reaching our goals. So we set

goals, we make the plans, we put our nose to the grindstone, and then we work our butts off

to reach the goal. And we achieve. But many high achievers that I've coached over the years

reach their goals but miss their lives. And not in the obvious trite, I'm working too hard to have friends kind of way.

No, no, no, no, no, no, no.

They reached their goals and discover they were the wrong goals and the wrong path to get there.

No one taught them how to set goals that would give them the life and the career that they wanted.

If you've listened to my Living in Extraordinary Life presentation, which you can find at

steverrobbins.com slash l-E-L, that's steverrobbins.com slash l-E-L, then you know that I question

whether it even makes sense to set life goals. Well, I do set life goals, but not for the reason

you think. Goals are useful.

Many people really do find goals motivational, and if you're one of those people, and I am,

set goals and go wild.

But do it in a way that will actually get you the life that you want.

Stop setting goals for the wrong reason.

The first step to setting goals that will bring you an awesome

life is to stop setting goals that will bring you a sucky life. Most goals are about a destination.

I want a million dollars. I want enlightenment. I want a truck. If you tend to set your goals

based on the destination and you don't consider the journey, try switching it

around.

Understand the life that you want to lead.

Instead of setting life goals, think about setting a life direction.

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