314 SelfWork: Mother (Or Mother-In-Law) Trouble: Answering Your Questions
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 9 December 2022
⏱️ 29 minutes
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Summary
Today, I'll be answering three listener questions about how to make successful transitions with their moms or mothers-in-law. And I chose them because they're very much reflective of common problems you might have yourself.
Psychiatry blamed mothers years ago for everything from autism to schizophrenia and that was all plain wrong. Even Freud’s granddaughter, Sophie Freud, also a professor and psychiatric social worker, has said that her grandfather didn’t understand a woman’s sexuality at all. So, we’re not throwing moms under the bus. I’m a mom and know I’ve not been a perfect one. But I have no desire to be thrown under any vehicle, bus or no bus - while dads have their own dynamic, which can often be destructive.
But these three listener questions did pertain to moms – so we’ll focus on potential problems that can arise as you become an adult yourself and make normal transitions.
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| 0:00.0 | This is Selfwork, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:14.1 | At Selfwork, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.4 | I'm Dr. Margaret, and Selfwork is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today |
| 0:26.2 | for your own Selfwork. |
| 0:29.9 | Hello, and welcome or welcome back to Selfwork. |
| 0:32.7 | I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:33.7 | I'm a clinical psychologist. |
| 0:35.5 | I've lived and worked in favor of Arkansas for now 30 years, and I was delighted to start |
| 0:40.2 | bringing new self-work. |
| 0:41.9 | Six years ago now, I kind of wanted to extend the walls of my practice. |
| 0:46.0 | We started in 2016, and we're still going strong. |
| 0:49.7 | This is my last episode to record, before I have to take a few weeks off for a recovery |
| 0:54.0 | from surgery. |
| 0:55.0 | I've erotted dectomy for those who want to look that up. |
| 0:58.5 | I'm certainly hoping to be back in mid-January, and we've lined up incredible guest hosts, |
| 1:03.8 | personal favorite episodes of my team, and interviews I've already done this year to close |
| 1:08.4 | out 2022 and move into 2023 with curiosity, creativity, and celebration. |
| 1:15.6 | To say I'm not afraid isn't true. |
| 1:18.3 | My family and friends are facing some ambiguity. |
| 1:21.4 | Frankly, I'll be glad instead of my mind leading me down treacherous paths to complications |
| 1:26.3 | that may not even occur. |
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