I remember when my husband and our first partner they went on the first date like just the two of them and I took this picture of them and posted it and it was all it was all fake like it was just all me like trying to foster this feeling that was not there.

And after a couple of times of doing that and it going horribly wrong,

I was like, okay, Vita, this is not the experience that you're having.

And then I began to say, okay, well, do you need it?

Do you need it?

Can you get yourself to a place of indifference?

Can you get yourself to a place of going,

I may not be happy that my partner is happy with someone else but I am

happy that they're living the life that they want I am happy that they're seeking to fulfill themselves I don't always like the ways that they

choose to do it, but I do appreciate their ability to be able to do it and I support that.

Welcome to the Multiannual Podcast. I'm Jace. I'm Emily and I'm

Dettaker. We believe in looking to the future of relationships, not

maintaining the status quo of the past. So whether you're monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just do

relationships differently, we see you and we're here for you. Fongs I know I did.

Forcing me to for myself to fit. On this episode of the Multiannary Podcast we have a very special guest

Evita Soirs. Avita Lavita Lavka Soyers is a non-monogamy coach, speaker, and educator,

the creator of Today's Polyamory Reminder, she is also the subject of a groundbreaking Polyamore reminder. She is also the subject of a groundbreaking polyamorous documentary,

Poly Love. Her approach is both Frank, yet empathetic, and she is appreciated for her vulnerable openness about her own challenges in non-monogamy and helping others to grow.

So, Evita, thank you so much for being here.

Thank you for having me.

I'm grateful for this opportunity.

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