Welcome to Ghost of a Podcast. I'm your host Jessica Lignato. I'm an astrologer, psychic

medium, and animal communicator, and I'm going to give you your weekly horoscope and no

bullshit, mystical advice for living your very best life.

Hello and welcome back to Ghost of a Podcast. Today I have a question from Heidi B. She

says, how do I know when pushing myself to be more giving and especially forgiving is

good and when it's detrimental because I'm expecting too much of myself. I'm trying to

live by values of kindness, emotional generosity, and practicing forgiveness, and sometimes

the most generous road feels like too much. I give a lot, but you can always give more,

help more, be more accepting, more forgiving. How do I know when I'm simply experiencing

growing pains from my efforts to let something go or be a better person and when I'm compromising

myself by trying to give too much or accept or forgive things that I simply can't?

And Heidi asks that I don't share her birth information, so I shall not. Let me start

off with, this is a very good question. It's a good question because listen, yeah, I'd

like to tell you, try, kind, all this kind of good stuff, but it is the human condition

to be a jerk. Now, I don't mean that we should rest on our jerky laurels, but it is not

the human condition to be a saint. The truth of the matter is we all struggle with shitty

thoughts and feelings. We do. It's just part of being a person. And what we do with those

shitty thoughts and feelings is really important moment by moment, day by day, but it's also

really important in the face of the big stuff. It's also really important overall because

here's a spoiler alert, you are going to mess up. You're going to be crappy to yourself

and to others. You are going to have people in your life that you cannot forgive. You're

going to be someone's bad guy. You just will. Maybe lots of people's bad guy. Maybe there's

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