309: The 5 Fight Languages: Which one are you? - Lena Morgan
ON AIR WITH ELLA | Women's Wellness
Ella Lucas-Averett
5.0 • 704 Ratings
🗓️ 19 August 2023
⏱️ 60 minutes
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Summary
This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to improve their conflict resolution skills and gain a deeper understanding of themselves. In this episode:
- What are the the 5 Fight Languages?
- Understanding our "protective" AND "productive" reactions in a fight
- What are "core wounds" and how do they impact the way we operate in conflict?
- What to do if you shut down in conflict? If your partner does
- The power of awareness in changing behavior
- When to decline an invitation to conflict
- Why it's helpful to understand your fight language when "fighting with yourself"
The 5 Fight Languages:
- Ignitor - Lights the match that can burn an argument down
- Amplifier - Let's their emotions get louder until they feel seen
- Negotiator - Elevates self into role of parent / teacher / counselor
- Analyzer - Looks for logic, reason, and facts in an argument
- Extinguisher - Escapes, refuses to participate
Which one are you? Take Lena's free 5 Fight Languages Quiz
SHOW NOTES: https://www.onairella.com/post/309-fight-languages
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome. You're on air with Ella where we share simple strategies and tips from people who are doing something better than we are. |
| 0:12.0 | Whether it's wellness or relationships to just living better and with more energy or changing your mindset to accomplish more in your own life and succeeding however you define it. |
| 0:22.4 | This is where we share the best of what we're learning from the experts and we're learning more |
| 0:26.3 | every day. Live better. Start now. Let's go. Hey, you're on air with Ella and today it is my pleasure |
| 0:35.8 | to introduce Ms. Lena Morgan. Hey, Lena, how are you? |
| 0:39.6 | I am so good. Thank you so much for inviting me into your space. I'm so happy to be here. |
| 0:44.3 | Listen, you know how sometimes you can just tell? I can already tell. This is going to be a good one. |
| 0:49.2 | Same. I'm already like, this is great. The energy is already there. We are vibing listener. |
| 0:55.3 | I welcome you. |
| 0:56.4 | I invite you to pull up a chair at this table because Lena and I have a lot to talk about. |
| 1:02.3 | Lena, where are you today? |
| 1:04.2 | I am in Anchorage, Alaska. |
| 1:06.2 | I'm based here in Alaska, so I'm the time difference. |
| 1:09.6 | I'm like, good thing I'm an early riser, man. |
| 1:13.5 | Welcome. Okay. Layna, could you do me a favor and tell us who you are and what you do? |
| 1:19.6 | Absolutely. So I'm a conflict resolution expert who created the fight languages. These are the five |
| 1:25.1 | different types of people in a fight. But before I was |
| 1:29.0 | into conflict resolution, I was actually a midwife for a really long time and owned birth centers. |
| 1:34.7 | And I love everybody's always like, explain that. How did you get from? But think about it. |
| 1:39.5 | When you're giving birth, there is no other place where you are navigating these really high tension spaces |
| 1:46.7 | and needing to communicate effectively. So all of my, you know, like over a decade, walking women |
| 1:52.8 | through being able to advocate for themselves, express what they need, articulate their experience, |
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