307. Why Do I Feel the Need to Control Everything?

The Widowed Mom Podcast

Krista St-Germain

Mental Health, Grief, Deathofpartner, Education, Widowedmom, Deathofspouse, Widow, Lossoflovedone, Health & Fitness, Husbanddied, Self-improvement, Posttraumaticgrowth, Lifeafterloss, Overcominggrief

4.6 • 649 Ratings

🗓️ 14 April 2025

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

Do you find yourself trying to control everything in your life since losing your person?

If so, I want you to know that this is completely normal, especially after loss. Our need to control often comes from a deep desire to feel safe when our world has been turned upside down.

But here's the truth: trying to control what we can't control is exhausting. It's like trying to hold onto sand - the tighter we grip, the more it slips through our fingers.

In this episode, I explore why we feel compelled to control everything after loss, the hidden costs of this behavior, and how to find true power without control.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/307

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Widowed Mom Podcast, episode 307, Why Do I Feel the Need to Control Everything?
0:10.7	Welcome to the Widowed Mom podcast, the only podcast that offers a proven process to help you work through your grief to grow, evolve, and create a future you can truly
0:23.1	look forward to.
0:24.7	Here's your host, Master Certified Life Coach, Grief Expert, Widow, and Mom, Krista
0:31.0	St. Germain.
0:33.3	Hey there, welcome to another episode of the podcast.
0:37.0	First of all, thank you so much for the warm reception to last week's podcast. I gave you a life update that was vulnerable and talked to you about my separation. And I knew everyone would be kind. I really did. but still, it felt good to just be received with such
0:58.2	gentleness and love and support. And especially all of my clients in my mom goes on program.
1:04.6	Oh my gosh, so many nice messages. And so thank you. Thank you, thank you. Thank you. I appreciate that this is a space where we can be
1:12.5	vulnerable and we can be honest. And yeah, just thank you for the way that you, you showed up for me.
1:19.0	I love that and I appreciate it. Okay, a couple of things. Other things. By the time you listen to
1:25.6	this episode, coaching on the couch will be over. But I'm recording this before it happens, and I'm super excited about it.
1:31.6	It's always so, I want to say fun. It's fun. It's meaningful. It's sad. It's hopeful. It's all the things.
1:40.0	And it's an event where a couple of times a year I have 10 or 11 women come to my house,
1:46.4	all widows, women who have done, mom goes on.
1:48.7	And we spend a day coaching in my living room.
1:51.5	And it is the best.
1:53.1	It is the best for me as a coach because it's just like I'm in my element.
1:57.0	I am with my people.
1:58.7	And of course, I'm in my own house.
2:00.4	And it just feels really good to me.
2:01.9	But it's really rewarding for me to watch other women connect with one another and feel seen
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