Cognitive and personal biases can really, really come up the works.

I mean, we can have a cognitive bias just straight from this person who walks up to us and

based on how they look, how they're dressed, the color of their skin, what gender they are, you know, we can already

immediately kind of create a story around, oh, I think this is what they're going to say or this is what they're

going to want and I'm going to immediately react from that standpoint instead of being open and receptive and what happens in in

long-term relationships and I think we've talked about this on this show before

that over time research has shown that people actually get worse at predicting what their partner is thinking and feeling.

So interesting.

Yeah, not because they don't know each other well.

Of course, when you're a long-term relationship and spend a lot of time together, you start to know each other better and better but

it's because we form a narrative it's like we form a cognitive bias around this person

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Often during conversations with our acquaintances, our families, and our partners, we fail to actively listen and

instead we're thinking about other things like what to say next. Today we're going to discuss why it can be so hard to

listen properly, the importance of learning to listen, and some homework practices that you can do

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