Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. Why am I not happy?

Whose fault is it?

This is a really important question

that I'm going to try to tackle today.

Because when we're struggling, we want to know why. Why is this happening to me? And I think

more importantly, is there anything I can do about it?

And the answer is yes, there are many things that we can do

about our and happiness and to make it better.

But before we go there, I want to talk about what happens in life.

How did we get to where we're at and how do we undo the things that are causing us to be

unhappy? There are two the things that are causing us to be unhappy.

There are two things in life that we really have no control over.

The first one is the genetics that we're born with.

We may have a genetic predisposition towards depression

or bipolar personality disorder.

We may be born blind, or we may be born really healthy with an incredible athletic ability

Some of our genetic predispositions like our eye, we of course can't really change.

But other things can be influenced or modified as we get older.

With that predisposition towards oppression, we can learn about skills to how to overcome depression, and thus lead a happy, more peaceful life.

The other thing we can't control is the environment in which we're born into.

We don't choose our parents. We don't choose the way they're going to interact with us and treat

us. Those are not in our control. But the choices we make are how we

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